WhiteOwl

I was thinking about what constitutes really great sex, and what might stand in the way of it? Some thoughts that comes to mind: Openness. Being receptive and open to whatever happens. Feeling the body completely. Patience and presence. For me i've always been thinking a lot about wanting the girl to orgasm. Thinking that might actually be counterproductive. I imagine what you send out just by enjoying the sex yourself is way more attractive than thinking of any goal like that. Something that could stand in the way is being self-conscious about your own body. Sometimes i've had thought if i was manly enough, big enough, especially with taller girls, and those thoughts always respond in feeling insecurity. How do you emotionally connect with someone? I guess thats where the best sex come from. Or the sex i am talking about 🙂

I will look into them, thanks 🙂

Yes, also been thinking exactly that actually. yes, thanks 🙂 Nice pointing Still can't understand it completely i think, but i will get back to it

What about a brain-cancer patient. Does he also not have a brain? It just becomes wierd. How do you talk about these things. Maybe @Phil can help me out

After ecstasy, the laundry. Psychedelics for me seems to be useful for contacting and healing trauma, if you listen to them and let them guide you. They can guide you into difficult emotions, but just like when you are not tripping, its about being in the body and not just floating in your mind. I've had trips that felt very good where i was dreaming away, but the most healing ones are the present ones being here now.

Clickbait title. I was talking with a brain-scientist the other day and i was thinking about the blog post about the brain not existing. How do you not seem like a complete douchebag saying that to someone studying the brain for a living? Its like all this nothingness is making all science completely useless. What is the point of science when its all energy and there is no-duality?

Sitting in parks doesn't sound too bad, and there is no wasting anything. Thats just a thought as you notice. Maybe sounds counterintuitive, but try to feel the emotions you don't like or don't want to feel even more. Go complete counter and invite it it. See what happens, get curious about your emotions. Don't judge them

Makes a lot of sense. And yes i can honestly. It was like telling her how i felt during the last 3 month changed how i feel about the whole situation. It just wanted to be expressed like everything else. Now i don't feel i "need" her in the same way and just want the best for her, also cause she seems kind of troubled. Of course there is some fear that i might help them find each other, but i also can't go into a relationship with someone where that is hidden. So its a win no matter what. Thanks for great reply💚

So funny

@ReenaMight be very right yes. I will feel a little more into it and see

@PhilReally stubborn thought pattern of picturing "me" and "her" in different situations. Fortune telling sort of. Arguing sometimes. How would you go about putting that down?

@PhilAlso, we are doing a label together just us 3. Funny and ridiculous situation to some extend. So thats why its not just something that can be dealt just me.

Yes thats what i said. She seems confused about it though and it appears very unresolved. Like they created some little trauma. Or she did. they used to be very close friends.

I wrote some month ago about a situation with the girl i was dating who i figured had feelings for my good friend (and her good friend) and likewise. I drew back completely, and it has turned into a situation where they are not talking much and she didn't want it (her best friend is his ex). It was a huge mess for them and i could suspect that she doesn't want it because the whole sitatution was too much to handle for her. I don't clearly understand it, they have known each other for atleast 6-7 years and i am quite new in her life and relatively in his. I have been fantasizing about seeing her again i was very attracted to her at the time. Now i recently started hanging out with her a few times again after 3 month of not seeing each other, and i was getting some vibes back for sure. I ended up telling her how i felt and still do, which was a huge release as its been kept inside for the whole time. Thinking about it working out in some way for me and her brings up a lot of thoughts about if they (my friend and her) might be a better match. That she likes him more. That i am ruining something for them by trying. Maybe he wants it more than me, and then i kind of don't want to get in between. All of those thoughts feel discordant so it cant be aligned. I love my friend and i also like the girl a lot and would be interesting to see more. So the question is, should i consider them and their situation when thinking of what i want? "Their situation" is also my beliefs and interpretations.

@Jonas LongDo you exercise everyday or close to? Go for walks etc. These are the basics that has to be in place, before looking in other directions after.

@ReenaForgive her, not for her, but for yourself, and then move on. If you keep digging around in this you will feel terrible til you ain't here anymore. You can continue to tell this story but it will always feel the same. Make another truth. You need to look at it differently, forgive her and forgive yourself.

Like i feel resistance to doing anything really. Lots of good books, small projects, but starting feels so resistant

Last couple of month i've been going through huge emotional releases. I feel better than ever, and situations with others which usually caused a lot of emotional turmoil are not anymore. I generally feel capable for most situations which is incredibly amazing. With this better feeling and maybe also some beliefs having left about needing to do a lot of things, i find myself in a situation without any real desire. At home i feel quite fine and content most of the time, but without any real desire to push forward with my music or anything else. I do it slowly sometimes but doesn't spark that much joy. I mostly just eat, go for many walks, exercise etc, but have no real desire to read, watch a movie etc. I end up just jumping around on my computer, half heartedly contemplating some things maybe. Only thing i really want is a girlfriend to share some time with. I feel very attracted to someone right now, so trying to make that happen. I would just like something to feel really passionate about next to it as it feels a bit obsessive and needy to just want a girlfriend.

What came to mind was not so much in terms of being tricked or fooled, but just anything with "someone". Judging them or believing anything about them. How often are we really 95-99.9% sure its true. If it happens that rarely, it seems like you prefer trusting in "people". If someone fucked you over, at least you gave them the chance to prove you wrong. And you learned not to deal with that someone again.

Could you elaborate what you mean here? Dont quite get it. If was not talking about being pissed. I was talking about to what degree i am the author. I don't see you ragequitting the forum because you get pissed, so that would be hard to create. But i am asking if i control everyone to that degree i guess. Can you make your husband change behaviour with imagination? Have you done it

Am i making you up @Mandy It sounds like i could imagine you getting so pissed to ragequit the forum, and then watching it happen, but am i really the author like that? If not, then i am not i guess?

The learning is noticing what crap you believe about yourself currently, causing you to react and feel unwanted stuff in situations like this. Not believing that, every situation will change. If you REALLY want to change this, not just talking or reading about it. Sit down when you have time and can be alone, and contemplate what the problem is. Why do you feel and think like you do? Look and write down what you believe, and see what its doing to you. Feel and write. Go into it. It won't change otherwise most likely. Thinking that you need to learn or add something is going straight opposite. Thats just more discordant beliefs added.

Love is kind of what you are, without all the thoughts. Breathing deeply from the stomach, the love that you are shines forth because focus is not on external things which is actually also you appearing as that. Feeling the love, you see it everywhere also. Just breathing lately is causing dramatic change in how i feel and handle situations (Is there any situations handled ?). For a while it was "difficult" to breath continously deep into my stomach but with practice it becomes more and more effortless

This is getting interesting. I have more questions i will make some threads when i have time. Bit busy these days

Because you are already going where you want to. Sounds like i am more accurately watching a movie than being the author though. Like its mentioned in the Ox pictures. You realize you are not in the driver seat but more a passenger. Why is all this dreamboarding and stuff even necessary though? Of course its not necessary, but ain't you just turning the wheel in the Tesla.