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How do I question beliefs in the right way? Do you sit in meditation, ask the question and be mindful of what comes up? Do you use a paper and pen or reflect on it intellectually?
What is the easiest way?
How do I know if the thoughts coming up when questioning are true or false? I think I've read there's no true thought, should I ignore all thoughts and only focus on what I see in direct experience?
When I use Byron Katie's method I don't feel like anything changes even though I question the same beliefs several times.
It feels very difficult for me to reflect on questions casually to begin with.
I just want it to feel easy to inspect and question beliefs.
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I feel so much fucking frustration about not BEING ABLE TO SLEEP!!!! I'm putting in so much effort to go to bed early but NO here I am 1 am. Just because stupid ITCHY THROAT. I think the coughing, swallowing and itchiness is an emotional issue or that the body is not healing properly from some virus because of stress. I've been coughing on and off for some years too, not "asthma".
Louise Hay - "cough: A desire to bark at the world. “Listen to me!” 😂 so accurate.
"Throat: Avenue of expression. Channel of creativity. – Throat Problems: The inability to speak up for one’s self. Swallowed anger. Stifled creativity. Refusal to change."
I felt incredibly tired during the day and tried to nap for one hour but didn't fall asleep.
I've experienced pain by the heart the past days too. I think I'm going to call Dr on monday. Last week my uncle shared that he has felt pain by the heart but there was nothing physically wrong with him, and I just mentioned I've experienced the same and I thought it was because of stress. His wife happens to work as a nurse for people with heart problems and she said firmly that I should call next time it happens. Maybe it just happened again because I focused on it.
Louise Hay - "Heart: Represents the center of love and security. – Heart Attack: Squeezing all the joy out of the heart in favor of money or position. Feeling alone and scared. “I’m not good enough. I don’t do enough. I’ll never make it.” – Heart Problems: Longstanding emotional problems. Lack of joy. Hardening of the heart. Belief in strain and stress."
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Without the comments and judgements about how there's something wrong with “this forum”, I don't think there's anything wrong with “this forum”.
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I just want to completely let go of the worry and fear about being alive and thoughts about how I don't want to be alive. I'm not sure how, those thoughts seem to just naturally disappear when I focus on something else but they come back and it never seem like I genuinely want to live life fully. It seems like I'm stuck in endless suffering. I hate the feeling of effort and to constantly work on myself.
I feel like I have so many topics I want to post and ask about in the emptying section but it feels too much to read or engage in.I want to have a routine of questioning thoughts again. I want more clarity on how to question thoughts more easily.
I can't reflect or contemplate easily on things I read like people normally do. Whenever Phil writes any kind of question where you have to reflect on it, it feels difficult to focus, feels difficult emotionally/physically and I just want to avoid it. I think it feels difficult when it's not direct experience.
I met a psychologist in January that I had waited two months for and I need to wait another two months for the next meeting. I will probably need to repeat most of what I already told him. It seems like a waste of money but I also want help and I want to talk to someone a lot more often than that. I feel more relaxed and free to talk about whatever I want with women. -
On 2/6/2024 at 2:11 PM, Joseph Maynor said:
On interviewing for any job. Push through your doubts and go for it! Worst thing that can happen is you don't get the job, which just puts you right back where you are now, so nothing is lost. Nothing ventured nothing gained. I'm self-employed now but when I used to interview for jobs most of the time I would get the job. It's not bad to lack experience, what they want is to see someone with a positive attitude and a can do it attitude. Because they can train you if you're willing to learn. Believe in yourself. A genuine positive attitude is very attractive in an interview. You don't want to overdo it though or it comes off as insincere. But I think what's attractive is someone who is willing to learn and take personal accountability to take ownership of that job. It's like a character thing. I like to say every employee is actually self-employed -- it's best to think about it this way. The worst thing any employer wants is someone who just dials it in, no passion, no personal accountability, no growth, lazy, dependent, has to be told what to do, etc.
Yes. I don't need any experience or education, I can learn as I go! I get the impression that they care more about finding the right person that loves nature. Some of these places are only reached by hiking, skiing or boat so it's not for everyone.
To be honest I think I'm lazy, dependent and barely feel any passion. A lot of beliefs behind those words. It's not like I'm applying for this job because I genuinely want to 😂
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@Phil apparently as a host I could be in the restaurant to serve or cook food too. Cleaning, being in the reception and store is included too
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On 2/5/2024 at 3:26 PM, Phil said:
Record with the camera at eye level. Do not put the camera low and pointing upwards at your face. If you did that already, record those answers again.
When I said I already had replied to a few questions I meant in text form, not in a video.
I tried yesterday but I felt worry and didn't remember the words I wanted to say. I thought recording a short video like that would be easy but it wasn't for me 😂
On 2/5/2024 at 3:26 PM, Phil said:Imagine I’m a host for a restaurant and my beliefs about the restaurant I’m welcoming you into are;
This restaurant doesn’t have anything to impress you.
This restaurant doesn’t have any experience, and has no education for cooking.
Here, at this restaurant, we doubt we have quality and we worry that it could be too intense or exhausting to do so.
Rather than believing discordant thoughts, acknowledge the discord doesn’t feel good to you any more than the same beliefs about the restaurant would feel good to any potential customers you’d be greeting as a host. In all honesty, you wouldn’t even eat there.
These beliefs self referential thoughts - believed, and are for introspecting to dispel. Don’t confuse these beliefs with having anything to do with any thing, any one, or any place, or any opportunity. Beliefs are only beliefs.
Discordant beliefs are discordant beliefs. Simply be honest about that.
That you can relax & allow yourself is a belief. You are already yourself. Some thoughts feel discordant, some feel aligned - to you. Be honest about that.
Record it & watch it before submitting or sending it. When it’s a ‘10’ to you, when it feels the way you would want to feel upon being welcomed in to the restaurant, submit / send it.
I'm going to be a host for the people coming for hiking and sleeping there, not a host inside the restaurant. I meant that I could work in the restaurant as a waitress, if I'm not going to be a host. What you wrote is still relevant 🙂
It feels discordant to think that I should change all of these things about me, that I should be mindful. It seems like I have a huge pile of things that needs to be changed about me and that this thread is just one more heavy thing I'm putting on my shoulders. Feels like a lot of effort because I'm already working on a lot of other things.
It feels better to focus on what feels loving right now instead of thinking I should change.
On 2/5/2024 at 3:26 PM, Phil said:Imagine the restaurant is going to impress - it’s going to blow your mind.
Imagine they have lots of experience and are actually educated about cooking.
Imagine the quality is unsurpassable and effortless as everyone working there puts feeling first.
Do you mean in the same way as I imagine the restaurant I can imagine how I want myself to be? Saying that I have lots of experience or that I'm very educated when I'm not feels off.
My job coach encouraged me last week to imagine how I want my life to be with all senses, especially how I want my work experience to be like. So that's something I'm practicing. I could also do that before the interview. 🙂
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Apparently my mom have been sleeping on the floor in the living room this night because of drinking. My dad tried to get her up at night but it didn't work.
I don't know why I get judgemental about mom being drunk but not as much with people outside the family. Her personality gets so changed.
I think she's feeling grief about her mom passing away a few weeks ago and she might not get to drink as much this weekend when we're around relatives.
My dad felt a lot of anger & blame because we were supposed to drive one hour earlier than we did this morning and that we have ruined his mood for the whole day.
Now I'm going to sit in the same car as them for more than 12 hours traveling.
I'm going to take a nap, then it's time for morning meditation & breathwork. ❤️
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@Phil @Joseph Maynor Thank you both & sorry for late reply, have been really busy. I'm writing more later 🙂
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I'm applying for work by several mountain station hotels in national parks where I will work as either a host for the tourists, in the restaurant or as a receptionist.
I think being a host would be most fun with more variety of things to do.
They want me to make a 1 min video in the application. How do I make a good impression? I have already replied to a few questions and don't want to repeat that. It's short but seem to be an important part of the application.
Overall I don't think I have much to impress them with because I don't have any experience of the job, no special education for it. I guess I doubt I have the qualities that they want and I feel a bit worry that it could be too intense or exhausting working as a host.
In an interview with them, how can I relax allowing myself to be as I am but also show that I'm the right person for them?
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On 1/28/2024 at 8:48 PM, Mandy said:
Would you mind explaining how I'm malnourished in your opinion?
@ThePoint I'd like to hear it as well.
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20 hours ago, ThePoint said:
For a typical American SAD diet feels good, for a carnivore meat diet feels good, for a vegan, a vegan diet feels good etc. It doesn't mean it feels good for their body. And you can see it in her notes.
How do you know whats right for your body if you don't trust feeling & intuition?
Thanks for the help!
14 hours ago, Mandy said:This channel has a lot of really yummy vegan, high protein recipes. https://www.youtube.com/@thenarddogcooks
Yeah sorry I'm derailing my own thread too 🙂
Thanks. I miss eating warm and creamy stews. Coconut milk seems necessary for that but I feel a lot of nausea from coconut.
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17 hours ago, ThePoint said:
I've done protocols with antimicrobial herbal blends, garlic extract and probiotics. Didn't work for me. I was also treated for H. Pylori infection with herbal tea but no idea if that even worked.
17 hours ago, ThePoint said:@noomii What was your anti-candida? Kaufmann protocol type?
When it comes to anti-fungal diets and fruit sugars I'd definitely avoid them for the first two weeks. +Probiotics is an absolute must after having your gut massacred.
https://www.thecandidadiet.com/anti-candida-diet/
Yes I used probiotics after oregano oil.
17 hours ago, ThePoint said:No. Meat felt good today.
17 hours ago, ThePoint said:Yeah, she's the last person I'd listen to in terms of any nutritional advice. Her workout/diet journal could traumatise a practitioner who then has to figure out how people like her get random diseases. Especially since these take time to develop.
Why?
What kind of practitioner are you?
22 hours ago, ThePoint said:That's a really good insight. People literally can't say what's right for you. Not a single expert. Not a PhD in nutrition. The most obvious example would be a food pyramid which has shifted numerous times throughout the years and still doesn't work. It is about developing a relationship with your body. How does the entire society get away with not taking responsibility for their own food choices? Honestly still boggles me.
When talking with @Mandy I get the impression she's eating what feels good for her.
17 hours ago, ThePoint said:Have you ever tried a rotational diet?
Oils/proteins are the things your immune system defends against when you repeatedly eat the same thing a few days in a row (or generally in excess). Then it can give you an allergy that lasts for a certain period (from days to months to years). And these can cause all kinds of shit honestly. Any symptom you could think of.
No I haven't but it sounds like something I need. I try to eat a variety of foods but it feels a bit difficult with planning new meals at the moment and easily feel nausea from eating things too regularly, when I take a break for a while it goes away but it easily comes back.
You can send the diagram to me.
17 hours ago, ThePoint said:And most importantly, hopefully, you already do that, drink clean water that's not soft and has pH>7 (so I'd assume most decent mineral water brands, but certainly not all of them). It's your main detoxifier, And I mean clean, no tea, coffee, juices, mixed powders or anything like that.
Why not tea?
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4 hours ago, Orb said:
Listen to your body, that's as simple as it gets. I've done vegetarian and now I'm back to eating everything since I'm a complete foodie!
Nowadays with so much info on the web people are actually eating words and ideas more than food unfortunately. And those ideas don't sit well in the stomach.
Personally, I just eat food and say fuck it this is infinite intelligence I believe in this body! Heck yeah! Way more empowering than believing every food is unhealthy or gluten soy etc.
❤️😄
I'm going to eat some meat tomorrow. I'd like to try bone broth sometime too.
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3 hours ago, ThePoint said:
@noomii It does! But mainly in the case of low-quality meats as well as overeating it.
That can have so many reasons.
You might want to try squeezing lemon into a glass of water and sipping it slowly with your meal. If it makes you feel good (or simply not heavy, sluggish, dull etc.), then you already have a digestive issue (try digestive enzymes and human-grade probiotics).
@ThePoint Thank you for your input 😊
I was told a few years ago that I have SIBO and dysbiosis.
Meat have been like a safety net giving me what I need without triggers, it's just recently I paid attention to that subtle feeling from meat. I've heard other people saying meat feels more heavy than veggies so maybe it's common.
3 hours ago, ThePoint said:And there can be so many reasons why you feel the way you feel - it's just guessing without having a deeper look into your life in general.
If I were you I'd jump on an anti-fungal diet for a week. If you were to have fungi die off you'd know after 3-4 days as you'd feel like crap, kind of flu-like symptoms (dead fungi release a lot of toxins, might be worth supporting your liver with milk thistle or something else).
I've been on anti-candida diet last year for quite a long time, eating a lot of anti-fungal foods and used oregano oil several rounds, but it didn't work, at least not the way I did it.
I haven't tested for candida infection but I got typical candida symptoms and die offs that I've never had before, after using a supplement that people easily get candida from.
Then Mandy here recommended me to cut out oil and eggs among other things, and I was able to start eating a bunch of fruits again.
I wasn't able to eat any fruit sugars for most of last year (I still don't eat any refined sugars).
I thought I had to avoid fruit sugars and to follow the anti-candida diet, but apparently it wasn't true.
I don't know, although I feel better I think I still have some candida overgrowth if I eat certain things. I ate pea/soy balls yesterday and felt pain, I seem to only feel that from candida.
I think what I need to heal digestion is to question beliefs, allowing emotions and to relax.
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3 hours ago, ThePoint said:
All of it and everything else you haven't yet verbalised
Do you mean why not just eat meat if I don't feel good on a vegan diet or what?
I would like to let go of the thoughts about how I'm doing something wrong if I eat meat.
Some sources have said meat is not good for digestion so that's also why I cut it out to see how it feels. The only thing I've noticed is that I feel a subtle heavier feeling just after eating meat but other than that it seem to be easily digested for me (except for chicken or pork that I don't eat). I eat grass-fed unprocessed meat.
I don't really trust the feeling guidence and eating food simply because it feels good because I get distracted by what I believe is right or wrong and what other people say.Not sure if most legumes feels off or if I'm exaggerating because I want to convince myself to eat meat. Also not sure if I'm intuitively drawn to eating meat or the opposite.
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57 minutes ago, ThePoint said:
Plenty of nice vegan protein sources. Also desserts. Check out this guy on youtube: Simnett Nutrition
That being said, ideally, work on your resistance to eating flesh foods and stop taking years away from your life for no good reason with the vegan nonsense. But that's entirely up to you.
What vegan nonsense?
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3 hours ago, Mandy said:
I like the vegan protein powders, garden of life and sunwarrior are the ones I've tried and like both brands. Combining rice and beans creates a more complete protein profile than eating them alone. Not vegan, but I eat sardines every other day.
I don't think I've eaten sardines before, are they the ones that smell awful? 😂
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47 minutes ago, Phil said:
🤷♂️ 😂
I guess there's no me or anything separate from me to begin with so it's not possible
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10 minutes ago, Phil said:
With respect to Hesitation, Procrastination, “Stuckness”, Inactivity…
Align yourself… with what?
I don't know 😂 feeling?
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1 hour ago, Orb said:
@noomii what's important is to find high quality sources of protein that are vegan.
A common misconception is that all proteins are the same. Protein is actually composed of essential amino acids and every "protein" you eat is actually a spectrum of the essential amino acids.
So for example yea beans have "protein" but they don't contain the full range of amino acids that your body needs, so compared to other foods it isn't the best source of protein even though it'll say it has protein.
As for vegan sources, soy protein (tofu) and pea protein seem to have the best blend of amino acids and they're also highly bioavailable.
Yes I've thought about that too and I don't think I have enough of it.
I actually just ordered plain pea protein powder. I've been hesitant about trying it though because it's yellow peas and I don't think I tolerate it. Atleast I can try.
Soy protein feels ok but I stopped eating it because of many sources saying it's not healthy.
There's something that feels off or incomplete with most legumes for me, which makes me want to eat meat, but meat feels off in a different way.
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I feel nausea from most foods I normally eat and weak from not eating enough protein. I don't plan my meals so I end up not eating what I need.
I would love for you to share any kind of vegan high protein recipes or just certain foods you like. Maybe even healthy dessert ❤️
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On 1/18/2024 at 8:32 PM, Phil said:
Noticing self referential thoughts isn’t about right & wrong, or good & bad. It’s only about how thoughts feel.
Question the thoughts, and consider… often there is a belief that a thought doesn’t resonate (‘feel good’) since it’s true.
I suggest it’s because the thought(s) isn’t true.
If willing to consider that, propose the opposite thought (for each, any or all of the thoughts shared above), and feel how the opposite thought feels, as far as if it resonates and or feels more freeing & empowering.
As always, happy to help.
It might be clarifying to question if there is a thinker, as in ‘I think…’, and, ‘I think I…’ or if there is an experience of thoughts.
Thoughts like effort might be skewed in terms of interpretation in this way. As in, being mindful might be the default, yet only presently, which is perfectly ample, as a past or future aren’t actually experienced.
It might also be clarifying & relieving to question the expectations and shoulds.
Who is expecting / whose expectations are these?
Who is saying ‘you should’ this or that?
Maybe this is a mental weight, without any actual validity…?
Yes… it’s no possible to push yourself, because that would require two of you. One to push the other. Likewise, be gentle if it resonates, and if it resonates, be gentle because it resonates. Not because you should be.
Also feel ‘avoiding mistakes’, which is focus on unwanted… vs how focus on the opposite feels.
And question if right, wrong, shoulds and mistakes are opinions, or if you or perhaps someone else actually experiences right, wrong, shoulds and mistakes as other-than, thoughts. It might resonate to consider that even if everyone in the world thinks a certain way, identifies as a thinker, believes thoughts about right & wrong, shoulds, expectations, mistakes, etc - that doesn’t in any way equate to that you have to.
Thank you. 🙂
I noticed when sharing the previous messages with you I wasn't very clear with what I was asking for. I apologize if I was unclear in some way. I already have the guidence within.
Still feeling doubt, but I'm allowing it and I'm focused on aligning myself before taking action.
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3 hours ago, Phil said:
That's a lot.
Questioning Beliefs
in The Path
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❤️ Thank you very much Phil. Replying when I have read through.
Anything you believe is true, like "I exist". Stuff you don't believe in are just thoughts