Emotional Bypassing Is A Sign Of Intelligence.

[WhiteOwl]

This thread is genius and incredibly clarifying

[Phil]

@WhiteOwl ♥️

 

A similar take on the scale…

 

What one won’t experience or at the least will greatly diminish, from having acknowledged and allowed the corresponding emotions, and therein actions & behaviors are not dictated or influenced by emotions:

 

 

Joy/Appreciation/Empowerment/Freedom/Love:

Reoccurring fear, despair, unworthiness, powerlessness, hatred, anger / revenge and insecurity. 

Outbursts / lashing out. 

Quarter life, midlife, late life crisis. 

A belief in separation. 

Fear of death. 

Issues with sleep. 

Being a follower. 

Confusion / issues with authority. 

Beliefs of lack, shortage & limitation. 

Experiential lack of mindfulness & present. 

Despair / not looking forward to what’s next / manifesting. 

 

Passion:

Procrastination.

Avoidance. 

Weight gain. 

Disdain & disengagement. 

Mediocrity.

Complacency.

Regret. 

 

Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness:

Boredom. 

Uncertainty. 

Discontentment. 

Discordant thoughts / thinking & rumination.

Discouragement & an experiential lack of resilience. 

Self-defeating / deflating / destructive behaviors.

Judgment & seeing the glass half empty. 

Limited opportunities. 

Worldviews of like me & not like me, us & them, haves and have nots. 

 

Optimism:

Negativity / discord / suffering. 

Dwelling on the past. 

Blaming. 

Judgment. 

Fear of change, trying new things & taking risks. 

Limited opportunities. 

 

Contentment:

Seeking external validation & approval.

Disparaging comparative thoughts. 

Indecision & rumination / monkey mind. 

Jealousy. 

Egocentrism. (Nothing is ever enough-ness). 

Entitlement. 

Subtle relationship manipulation. 

 

Boredom:

Addiction. 

Impulsiveness, unnecessary & adverse risk taking. 

Being manipulative, dishonest & deceptive. 

Distractions / time wasted / regret. 

Reliance on experiences, substances or others for relief & happiness. 

Ungrounded / non-mindfulness / non-presence. 

Weight gain & inflammation. 

Internalizing, such as lack of focus, ocd, add, etc.  

Hanging onto the past / not moving forward. 

‘Stuck in’ conditioned cycles. 

 

Pessimism:

Nonacceptance, resentment & addiction. 

Hopelessness, despair, unworthiness. 

Negative self-talk & self-sabotage.

Limited opportunities & procrastination. 

Vision & imagination not being infused with feeling. 

An experiential lack of preferences / wants / desires and of clarity with the next step as well as overall vision. 

Limited dreaming & manifesting. 

Financial difficulties. 

Health difficulties. 

Struggles with independence. 

Resistance to change. 

 

Frustration/Irritation/Impatience:

Reduced likelihood of escalating conflicts or arguments.

Blaming / score keeping.

Independence & autonomous freedoms being infringed upon / limited. 

Loss of sex drive. 

Shameful self-referential thought loops. 

Limited clarity. 

 

Overwhelment:

Susceptibility to burnout or chronic stress.

‘Stuckness’, being paralyzed by indecision or uncertainty.

Limitation of appreciation, growth, success & ‘worldview’. 

False idea of self. 

 

Disappointment:

Giving up on goals & aspirations.

Rejection.

Loss of naturally occurring positivity, optimism and or faith in humanity. 

Diminished relationships. 

 

Doubt:

Lowered tendency to second-guess oneself or one's decisions.

Decreased reliance on external validation or reassurance.

Limited vision of potential & possibilities. 

 

Worry:

Reduced bodily, emotional & mental well-being.

Being taken advantage of / placated / manipulated / deceived. 

Spider webbing, ballooning, catastrophizing. 

Inaccurate estimations. 

Reduction of joy in relationships, endeavors, pursuits, interests & hobbies. 

 

Blame:

Damaging relationships through resentment or hostility.

Victim mentality.

Judgment. 

Ignorance of one’s own creator-ship. 

 

Discouragement:

Addictions. 

Incompleteness. 

Emotional suppression. 

 

Anger:

Harming oneself or others.

Escalating conflicts & confrontations.

Regret. 

False limitations & restrictions. 

Suffering / shunning your light / true self (so to speak). 

 

Revenge:

Conflict or negativity in relationships & opportunities.

Legal ramifications such as having a record & incarceration. 

Thwarted opportunities. 

Harboring grudges.

Fixation on retribution.

 

Hatred/Rage:

Bodily stress, tension and diseases related to chronic stress & tension. 

Reduced immunity system. 

Unhealthy weight gain. 

Unknowingly sacrificing thwarting relationships.

Unknowingly sacrificing opportunities. 

 

Jealousy:

Resentment, bitterness, animosity & struggles with trust. 

Incessant comparative thoughts. 

Difficulties with relationships. 

Refusal / dismissal of the law of attraction. 

Self image / egocentric inflation & infatuation. 

 

Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness:

Self-sabotage or self-destructive behaviors.

Un-deservedness. 

Unhealthy one way / manipulative relationships. 

Enablement. 

Obsessiveness / impulsivity / compulsiveness. 

Clingy-ness / neediness. 

Struggles with intimacy. 

 

Fear:

Avoidance of challenges, opportunities & success.

Difficulty making decisions. 

Codependency, financial & emotional. 

 

Powerlessness:

Helplessness.

Inability, incapability. 

Quitting / giving up when adversity is experienced.

Struggles with control. 

 

Grief/Despair:

Rumination of self pity, loathing and complaining. 

Withdrawing from, ruling out or refuting social support & helpful resources. 

Existential angst. 

[Joseph Maynor]

If we're talking about advaita vedanta, The Self doesn't control the ego.  This is something that I see a lot of people have a hard time consistently grasping in advaita vedanta.  It's so tempting to think that the Self is a doer, but that puts you in mind/ego.  There's a presumption that the ego should or should not be a certain way, but that again assumes the ego exists and should be controlled by I guess more ego.  Really the practice is to realize that the ego is entirely an illusion -- so practice collapses into knowing and knowing collapses into being the Self.

Edited April 28 by Joseph Maynor