Am I worthy of beautiful women?

[Blessed2]

@Someone here Mandy is spot on. Listen. Actually read what is being said and ask for clarification. Mind your assumptions. Mind every single thing you think is true about the world, sexuality, men and women etc.

 

(Not because you should change your beliefs or something, but to feel better about what this thread is about.)

[Someone here]

11 minutes ago, Blessed2 said:

Mandy is spot on

No she is not . 

Men think with their dicks ..not with their brains .

That's what women won't ever understand. 

[Phil]

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

@Mandy OK whatever.  I think we've hit a dead end in this conversation. 

This is the beginning. ☺️

 

On 5/13/2023 at 2:26 PM, Someone here said:

A 10 is a 10 though .

 

This is not a ten. 

 

This is not a ten.

 

The thinker thinks there are thinkers. 

 

https://www.actualityofbeing.com/just-let-source-take-out-the-garbage… synonymous with conditioning, conjecture, and receiving vs suppressing the message of unworthiness.

 

Meaning, value, worth & purpose are objectifying. Misery. Isolation. Heavy. Weighty. Opposite of attraction. 

 

[Someone here]

@Phil lol what are you high on ?

[Phil]

@Someone here

Me. 

 

It’s culture (conditioning) and conjecture my man. 

But don’t listen to me, just allow the message.

Connect the dots. 

Allow the dots to connect. (Andrew Tate, ‘the woman belongs to the man’)

Boredom.

Freedom.

 

”Don’t think that I’ll be back again”. 

[Mandy]

 

 

[Someone here]

@Phil oh I was just teasing you ..haha 

5 minutes ago, Phil said:

It’s culture (conditioning) and conjecture my man

What is it?what are you referring to ?

@Mandy scarlett johansson is a dime . That's what I'm talking about. 

Just yesterday I found some DeepFake porn of her. 🤣 lmao

[Blessed2]

15 minutes ago, Someone here said:

Men think with their dicks ..not with their brains .

That's what women won't ever understand. 

 

What if this is just a belief? Like, false. Simply just not true. Like Santa Clause or tooth fairy.

 

How long will you keep believing this? You plan to keep experiencing unworthiness for the rest of your life? You plan to keep this belief running through every relationship you have with every man and woman til eternity? That sound like a good plan, make you very happy?

 

 

Or MAYBE just take a god damn moment to wonder if this belief is actually the case of just a belief. Wouldn't that be smart, to use maybe like a day or a week or a month to ACTUALLY question and inspect, and listen what others say, rather than spending an entire lifetime or lifetimes believing in Santa Clause and worrying every day if you've been good enough for presents.

 

 

Whatchu think this entire spirituality, non-duality, wisdom, insight, happiness etc thing is about? Holding on beliefs, or letting go beliefs?

[Someone here]

1 minute ago, Blessed2 said:

 

What if this is just a belief? Like, false. Simply just not true. Like Santa Clause or tooth fairy.

 

How long will you keep believing this? You plan to keep experiencing unworthiness for the rest of your life? You plan to keep this belief running through every relationship you have with every man and woman til eternity? That sound like a good plan, make you very happy?

 

 

Or MAYBE just take a god damn moment to wonder if this belief is actually the case of just a belief. Wouldn't that be smart, to use maybe like a day or a week or a month to ACTUALLY question and inspect, and listen what others say, rather than spending an entire lifetime or lifetimes believing in Santa Clause and worrying every day if you've been good enough for presents.

 

 

Whatchu think this entire spirituality, non-duality, wisdom, insight, happiness etc thing is about? Holding on beliefs, or letting go beliefs?

Look.. I don’t understand why people keep saying “well there has to be chemistry between couples and they should like each others personality ”..No shit, sherlock. Im aware of that and  don’t need to be lectured on that.

Appearance simply playing a role in how interested someone is, is much different than appearance being the sole basis for being interested. I didn't say w“I can’t imagine dating or marrying someone just because they’re attractive,” it makes it pretty clear that im talking about people who are shallow and don’t even approach people they perceive as less than e.g. a 10. If i only care about looks, that is an issue, sure . TBH. It’s shallow and superficial. Looks are important, yes, but they shouldn’t be the only reason you are with somebody. I get that . But I'm just a horny idiot. 

Spirituality has nothing to do with this btw .

 

[Phil]

21 minutes ago, Someone here said:

@Phil oh I was just teasing you ..haha 

🙏🏼 To whom does the gift belong?

 

31 minutes ago, Someone here said:

@Phil lol what are you high on ?

There’s no luck, coincidences or randomness (loa).

 

21 minutes ago, Someone here said:

What is it?what are you referring to ?

Objectification.

Outwardly, its objectification of other. But this is just the inner shining outward. The inner objectification is via meaning, purpose, value, worth, etc.

As you did not invent these concepts believed, it’s conditioning, conjecture. 

But again, no suggestion here to listen to me. 

 

21 minutes ago, Someone here said:

scarlett johansson is a dime . That's what I'm talking about. 

Just yesterday I found some DeepFake porn of her. 🤣 lmao

Pride & vanity too. Backbone of conjecture. Is it honestly surprising given how it feels, that this is manifesting as relationship difficulties? 

 

I would agree the conjecture has nothing to do with spirituality.

Put another way, compassion comes from empathy, empathy comes from feeling (emotions / receiving the guidance).  

[Someone here]

@Phil @Blessed2 @Mandy

48 minutes ago, Someone here said:

Men think with their dicks ..not with their brains

 

25 minutes ago, Someone here said:

scarlett johansson is a dime . That's what I'm talking about. 

Just yesterday I found some DeepFake porn of her. 🤣 lmao

alright..First of all I would like to apologise and take back any inappropriate or profane expressions I used here and there . Not intended to disrespect any of you ..I'm sorry for these two posts above  .

 

Second of all..gimme some breathing room to explain a lil bit my view :

 I think the first thing you see in someone is their appearance and not who they are as a person or their personality so that's what matters at first and when you get to know the person you stay for who they are and not their looks .also everyone's gonna get ugly as they get older so it's kinda stupid to get married just based on looks  .

Beauty has alot to do with personality..
However the first thing anyone notices is looks ..men or women ..doesn't really matter. It's preference. some people are attracted to ugly people.
Other's are attracted to pretty people.
Every single person are individuals and like what they like. 🤷🏻‍♀️

women are the same way though. how many times i have been on Tinder and seen MANY women say to swipe left if they arent a certain height. or women who turn down men who aren’t big enough down there. or women who want this or that. i think it goes both ways but because men are programmed to WANT and programmed to just be that way it stands out more. but thats just how it is. 

[Mandy]

@Someone here "That's just how it is." No. That's not how it is. That's what you're attracting, believing, focused on. 

[Someone here]

@Mandy OK. Teach me 🙂.im a total slob newbi in the dating business..what mindset should I treat and approach women with? 

[Mandy]

@Someone here What happened with your girlfriend? 

[Someone here]

1 minute ago, Mandy said:

@Someone here What happened with your girlfriend? 

I only see her on weekends .we stopped having sex because she said to me she lost the mojo . I only take her to Starbucks to drink coffee and hang out . We do some phone sex as well  . But probably it won't last longer and  either I will dump her or she will dump me . I'm looking for a 10 Like I said . .

[Mandy]

@Someone here Well, the mindset is you need to fix stuff with the girl you're with, appreciate the girl you're with, not go out and find a 10. 10 is just distraction/aversion to communication with the girl you have. 

[Someone here]

5 minutes ago, Mandy said:

@Someone here Well, the mindset is you need to fix stuff with the girl you're with, appreciate the girl you're with, not go out and find a 10. 10 is just distraction/aversion to communication with the girl you have. 

But what if I don't want that?  What if I simply want to find a better looking girl ? Is there anything wrong with that ? Is it something negative in any way that I would like to have sex with chicks like scarlett johansson, Kate Upton, Megan Foxx etc?  

Don't you wish to have sex with tom cruise for example? 

 

[Mandy]

@Someone hereI'm telling you that even if what you want is to dump the girl you're with and have sex with Tom Cruise, you need to first heal and face the relationship you're in to attract the one that you want. Could be it's already what you want and you're just overlooking it, because aversion. Maybe it's not right for you, but you can't attract the "next thing" if you're avoiding the now, avoiding the good and beauty that's already here. 

[Someone here]

2 minutes ago, Mandy said:

have sex with Tom Cruise

That's gay .

2 minutes ago, Mandy said:

Could be it's already what you want and you're just overlooking it,

Nah .I know exactly what I want .I certainly know what I want more than you do .

4 minutes ago, Mandy said:

because aversion.

What does that even mean ?

4 minutes ago, Mandy said:

but you can't attract the "next thing" if you're avoiding the now, avoiding the good and beauty that's already here. 

Fair point .

[Mandy]

@Someone here Actually, we all want the same thing at its essence. I'm not telling you what you want, but I do see aversion, and that ain't what you want and it ain't getting you what you think you want either. 

 

6 minutes ago, Someone here said:

What does that even mean ?

Aversion is avoidance, "I don't want to feel this, nor do I want to consider it, I don't want to look at it, I don't want to sit with it, I can't get curious about it, I just want out."

6 minutes ago, Someone here said:

Fair point .

A few months ago your girlfriend was a dream come true. Now she's not ok, because she's not Scarlet Johansen. What changed? New desires are always realized, but they feel great, not like a lacking. They are not the same as discontent, aversion which leads to arrogance and entitlement. 

 

You're not fighting for the girl you have. You won't even fight for her, you won't communicate, make things right, you're letting her just lose interest, just blah, whatever, and yet you think a hotter girl will fix it. It's YOU. You're the lukewarm one.