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Is fear an emotion?  And how to transcend fear? How to become fearless ?

I'm experiencing a huge fear from facing the brutality of life...it's like I'm a child that doesn't know how to grow the fuck up . But I'm also talking about fear of what might happen to me.. I might get cancer ..I might die in a car accident..I might go to hell after I die and other such shitty fearful thoughts.

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Fear is fundamentally rooted in discordant thought, simply throw those thoughts away.

 

If you wanna be dramatic you can scream "go away!" out loud and watch as they disappear 😁

 

I've heard the emotional scale works for this too if you wanna gradually climb out of this fear funk. 

"Mediocrity is gone. Mind is clear of limitation. I seek no state of enlightenment. Neither do I remain where no enlightenment exists. Since I linger in neither condition, eyes cannot see me. If hundreds of birds strew my path with flowers, such praise would be meaningless."

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14 minutes ago, Orb said:

Fear is fundamentally rooted in discordant thought, simply throw those thoughts away.

 

If you wanna be dramatic you can scream "go away!" out loud and watch as they disappear 😁

I hope this doesn't sound like victim-blaming..but I don't think that I have control over thoughts . Thoughts just arise unintentionally. 

How exactly to let go of a discordant thought? 

11 minutes ago, Reena said:

Hypochondriasis. 

Lol

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26 minutes ago, Someone here said:

I'm experiencing a huge fear from facing the brutality of life..

I'm actually going through the same. 

Do you have an Indian group anywhere online where they discuss issues and problems and stuff like a community etc? Let me know and include me if you know.. 

 

So basically I'm an autistic INFJ BPD sigma Pisces female with anger and CPTSD issues. Wow wow. 

My plate looks full. I Couldn't have been weirder than that. Now I get why I'm so idiosyncratic. 

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14 minutes ago, Someone here said:

I hope this doesn't sound like victim-blaming..but I don't think that I have control over thoughts . Thoughts just arise unintentionally. 

How exactly to let go of a discordant thought? 

 

Letting it go by: 

 

-Focusing on something else.

 

-Screaming "begone!" At it and shifting focus if you wanna feel more empowered.

 

-Meditation

"Mediocrity is gone. Mind is clear of limitation. I seek no state of enlightenment. Neither do I remain where no enlightenment exists. Since I linger in neither condition, eyes cannot see me. If hundreds of birds strew my path with flowers, such praise would be meaningless."

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2 minutes ago, Someone here said:

@Orb thanks . Any more methods? Those are great but I don't think they are enough .

If a thought persists ..like "I might die " and when I no matter trying to focus on some thing else it keeps coming back ..what to do?

 

Keep on letting it go as it arises. Dont make it into a big deal, the momentum will slow down for that thought. Feel the empowerment that comes from seeing you CAN let go of thoughts that dont feel good by shifting focus. 

 

The thing the "devil" hates the most is being ignored, he has no power! Non-Reactivity and shifting focus to more aligned thoughts / activities is key. 

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"Mediocrity is gone. Mind is clear of limitation. I seek no state of enlightenment. Neither do I remain where no enlightenment exists. Since I linger in neither condition, eyes cannot see me. If hundreds of birds strew my path with flowers, such praise would be meaningless."

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1 hour ago, Someone here said:

Is fear an emotion? 

Yes. 

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

And how to transcend fear? How to become fearless ?

Feel it fully.

 

Like checking to see if there really is a monster in the closet. Seems like there is only if you don’t check. Whenever you check, it’s empty. 

 

The rope only seems like a snake from a far. The closer you get the more it’s seen to be a rope. 

 

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

I'm experiencing a huge fear from facing the brutality of life...it's like I'm a child that doesn't know how to grow the fuck up . But I'm also talking about fear of what might happen to me.. I might get cancer ..I might die in a car accident..I might go to hell after I die and other such shitty fearful thoughts.

What is it you’re facing & referring to as ‘the brutality of life’? 

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28 minutes ago, Orb said:

Keep on letting it go as it arises. Dont make it into a big deal, the momentum will slow down for that thought. Feel the empowerment that comes from seeing you CAN let go of thoughts that dont feel good by shifting focus. 

Its difficult for me to wrap my mind around this ..because like I said .."You can let go of a thought " is equivalent to saying  "thought can let go of thought " . Since "you " is a thought . And its like a runaway train without a driver . The illusion of free will . I'm not In the driver seat of my life .

26 minutes ago, Blessed2 said:

Sometimes it's more brave to run away.

 

And fear of death is actually allure of death.

 

Elaborate more please. 

19 minutes ago, Phil said:

Like checking to see if there really is a monster in the closet. Seems like there is only if you don’t check. Whenever you check, it’s empty. 

 

The rope only seems like a snake from a far. The closer you get the more it’s seen to be a rope. 

I understand. And that was Orb's point.  You can check once .but then the thought arises again ..so I check again and there is no boogeyman..but then the thought /fear arises again . Its akin to OCD .

20 minutes ago, Phil said:

What is it you’re facing & referring to as ‘the brutality of life’?

Studying ..the constant struggle against addiction ..the struggle that comes with maturing from a boy to a "real man"..work..job ..taking responsibility of my life . And also we as men are doomed to suffer . I kinda wish I was born a woman.  They've got it way easier lol.

Also some existential fears that I mentioned regarding death and hell and these sort of things. 

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37 minutes ago, Someone here said:

Elaborate more please. 

 

The ego interprets fear as "I am afraid/fearful" or "I have fear(s) of this and that". That interpretation holds fear in place because it isn't acknowledged as guidance.

 

Then what follows is that it seems like you could not have fear by somehow becoming fearless. That's a hopeless attempt / interpretation, a hamster wheel which will never actually get you anywhere, but it's very useful for manipulation such as:

 

 

Fear is how certain thoughts feel, and everyone would feel the exact same fear about the same thoughts. You don't stop feeling the same fear (guidance) about the thoughts, ever. The fear only ends when the thought isn't believed anymore.

 

The thoughts / beliefs about death of which you experience the guidance of fear will never not feel like that guidance. Cuz the fear is telling you the thoughts are not true.

 

 

"Fear of death is actually allure of death" points out that death is not real, but it seems to have reality, a role and a real function because the ego actually wants it to be real. Death is the denial of eternal life. Eternal life would be too good to be true, according to the ego. It can't bear the light, and so it buries it's head into the sand, coming up with nonsense like birth and death, limited life.

 

 

There must be an effortless way.

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When you feel fear, run away like a little bitch who will never be a true man and win life, and feel the guidance of unworthiness and insecurity of the thought "little bitch who will never be a true man and win life".

 

There must be an effortless way.

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2 hours ago, Someone here said:

If a thought persists ..like "I might die " and when I no matter trying to focus on some thing else it keeps coming back ..what to do?

 

Distract yourself from the thoughts freely. Any distraction is good. Watching TV, scrolling through internet, eating fast food, even porn or masturbation.

 

 

There must be an effortless way.

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1 hour ago, Someone here said:

I understand. And that was Orb's point.  You can check once .but then the thought arises again ..so I check again and there is no boogeyman..but then the thought /fear arises again . It’s akin to OCD .

 

2 hours ago, Phil said:

Feel it fully.

 

Like checking to see if there really is a monster in the closet. Seems like there is only if you don’t check. Whenever you check, it’s empty. 

 

The rope only seems like a snake from a far. The closer you get the more it’s seen to be a rope. 

 

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4 hours ago, Someone here said:

the constant struggle against addiction

 

3 hours ago, Blessed2 said:

Any distraction is good. Watching TV, scrolling through internet, eating fast food, even porn or masturbation.

 

 

2 hours ago, Someone here said:

thank you man . Very helpful advice 👌 👍

 

 

lmao , i cant stop laughing 

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