Insta dudes

[Rose]

I’ve been looking through some guys instagram. These guys all are following hundreds of women there - these women are local, model-looking, and post sexy pictures of themselves, either in a bikini or lingerie, sexy dresses, tight workout clothes, some of these pictures straight out look like porn. Usually these women would be really young too, in their early 20s - early 30s.

 

After going though their pics, I honestly feel like a fat, ugly, potato. It makes me feel really insecure and that no wonder I don’t have a boyfriend if these are the girls I am “competing with”.

 

It also makes me very insecure to date a guy like that - he is just one click away from “sliding into DMs” of any one of the 100s of local half naked girls he follows. In fact, the moment a guy asks me for my Instagram, I keep thinking he’s just collecting insta chicks and I become uninterested. Worse, if I actually see his Instagram and there’s tons of these chicks. 

 

Some of these guys are the guys I used to date, and when I go through their “following” list I see those chicks and them liking almost every one of their pics. Again it makes me feel insecure, because they aren’t liking any of my pics. It also makes me feel kind of grossed out.
 

How do you navigate through this in the modern world? How to not let it get to you?

 

Is it weird that I don’t want a guy who is on Instagram/following tons of half naked chicks? Is it weird that I find those guys really creepy? 

Edited June 27, 2023 by Rose

[Blessed2]

3 hours ago, Rose said:

After going though their pics, I honestly feel like a fat, ugly, potato. It makes me feel really insecure and that no wonder I don’t have a boyfriend if these are the girls I am “competing with”.

 

It also makes me very insecure to date a guy like that - he is just one click away from “sliding into DMs” of any one of the 100s of local half naked girls he follows. In fact, the moment a guy asks me for my Instagram, I keep thinking he’s just collecting insta chicks and I become uninterested. Worse, if I actually see his Instagram and there’s tons of these chicks. 

 

Try repeating the thought "this is what I am experiencing" or "I am experiencing insecurity" and see if that brings clarity. It probably will.

 

Next is jealousy. It's really relieving. In fact it's a total game changer. Some time ago I acknowledged I experience jealousy of those super rich people who can just buy political power, do stuff like lobbying and even corruption for personal gain. They own multiple mansions and travel around the globe with private jets etc. Life just hasn't been quite the same after really acknowledging jealousy.

 

And then hatred and rage. Listen to metal.

 

 

3 hours ago, Rose said:

In fact, the moment a guy asks me for my Instagram, I keep thinking he’s just collecting insta chicks and I become uninterested.

 

That sounds a bit like he's just asking for your insta to make a move. Like he's interested in getting to know you better and slide into your PMs. Not collecting insta chicks.

 

3 hours ago, Rose said:

How do you navigate through this in the modern world? How to not let it get to you?

 

It's not the modern world. It cannot get to you. It's discordant thoughts / beliefs you are focusing on. Shift focus.

 

 

[Mandy]

Why are you looking at those Instagram accounts if it doesn't feel good to do so? Go find some fun art or something else inspiring or that you find really enjoyable on Instagram and follow and interact with a ton of accounts. You just completely changed the algorithm. Or else just get off that app. How many of those accounts are scams, to blackmail men with the compromising pictures they send to them? How much photo stealing, and photo editing goes into it? How much lifeforce are those women putting into the end product of that snapshot, rather than into her own dreams? 

 

You're just another woman out thinking about how you can change to please a man, or about how you're not good enough. Boring. You're a fucking goddess, not a potato. That's what men want, a woman who knows she's a goddess, a woman that puts her own pleasure first and therefore has an abundance of it to share with him. That said, what people want depends on where and who they are, and what they are attracting. Let men attract what men attract and don't try to control it or moralize, it, just enjoy what YOU find attractive. Please yourself first and you'll have whatever you like. The real algorithm is your thoughts, give attention to what YOU want. What do YOU find attractive, sexy, fun? Why aren't you focused on that instead of trying to guess what other people think is that? It's never what you think, which is the real reason why it always seems unattainable. 

[Alexander]

Oh skip me @Mandy.Those people worked really hard to get those bodies.Sorry we guys are not interested in over weight potatoes with unhealthy eating habits and lack of exercise.

[Mandy]

@Alexander You're free to like what you like, but it doesn't make anyone else unworthy. Plenty of fit men and women workout just cause it feels good and love their spouse for how they feel with them rather than because of how they judge them to be... worthy/unworthy. 

[Alexander]

Oh skip me @MandyOP should focus and correct her issues before blaming whole world for the way it is.

[Mandy]

@AlexanderWhat issues are you referring to? 

[Mandy]

@Alexander I found an account that will make you mad too! Something for everyone. 😊 https://www.instagram.com/p/CrED1NEvCqs/?hl=en

[Alexander]

Paid actor.

[Mandy]

@Alexander No, they are really husband and wife. He's just really into fitness. 

[Isagi Yoichi]

7 hours ago, Blessed2 said:

Life just hasn't been quite the same after really acknowledging jealousy.

I want to reach that level too the problem is i am not aware of my jealousy idk if i am jealous or not lol

[Rose]

1 hour ago, Alexander said:

Oh skip me @MandyOP should focus and correct her issues before blaming whole world for the way it is.

What issues are you talking about? That I didn’t have extensive plastic surgeries and don’t spend 5000$ every year on fillers and Botox? Don’t get professional photoshoots taken of me every week? 
 

I think man like you are unaware how much work those women put in to their looks and Instagram accounts, and they think that that’s what women are these days.

 

And men like you have no clue what the pressure is on women these days. Again, the focus is no longer on being healthy and dressing nicely. It’s plastic surgery, high end brand clothes/accessories, professional photoshoots, makeup..

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[Alexander]

You will attract what you are.End of discussion.

[Rose]

1 hour ago, Alexander said:

Oh skip me @Mandy.Those people worked really hard to get those bodies.Sorry we guys are not interested in over weight potatoes with unhealthy eating habits and lack of exercise.

I work out every day lol. But no amount of workout is going to fix what plastic surgery does.

[Phil]

11 hours ago, Rose said:

It makes me feel really insecure

Insecurity isn’t caused or felt because of it, but is how the thoughts about it feel.

Rather than aversion or, framing insecurity as a bad thing to be avoided or trying not to feel insecurity… feel into, allow & receive insecurity. This is the same as saying allow, receive, extract the wisdom. What’s it telling you about your interpretation, the way you’re thinking about this, about who or what you are and who or what you are not? Why does jealousy feel better than insecurity? 

 

11 hours ago, Rose said:

How do you navigate through this in the modern world? How to not let it get to you?

Acknowledge the truth. They are free, you are free, you appreciate preference & prefer it this way, and you are not the body and therein do not share the same fate, thus some thoughts feel off and are met with guidance. 

 

11 hours ago, Rose said:

Is it weird that I don’t want a guy who is on Instagram/following tons of half naked chicks? Is it weird that I find those guys really creepy? 

It’s weird that freedom is so inherent and intrinsic that one can focus on unwanted and expect to feel alignment as the creator. It’s weirdly awesome, and takes a minute to get the hang of. 

 

Don’t aim to love things & people; love the thoughts. 

[Rose]

7 hours ago, Alexander said:

You will attract what you are.End of discussion.

So what do you do for work? How much money do you make? What’s your highest level of education? What properties do you have? What car do you drive? Where do you go on vacations and how often? How tall are you? What’s your d*ck size? What’s your race? Eye colour? Do you have full hair? What’s your weight? How many friends do you have? 

Edited June 27, 2023 by Rose

[WhiteOwl]

1 minute ago, Rose said:

So what do you do for work? How much money do you make? What’s your highest level of education? How tall are you? What’s your d*ck size? What’s your race? Eye colour? What’s your weight? How many friends do you have? 

This is not what you are...

[Blessed2]

7 hours ago, Mandy said:

@Alexander I found an account that will make you mad too! Something for everyone. 😊 https://www.instagram.com/p/CrED1NEvCqs/?hl=en

 

They look great. Good vibes.

 

6 hours ago, Alexander said:

Paid actor.

 

😂

 

[Rose]

5 minutes ago, WhiteOwl said:

This is not what you are...

I’m just showing this dude that judging people as quality people based on their appearance/superficial things can be done both ways 

[Rose]

14 hours ago, Blessed2 said:

Try repeating the thought "this is what I am experiencing" or "I am experiencing insecurity" and see if that brings clarity. It probably will.

But why would this bring clarity? What is the logic behind this?