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I often doubt my self and my ambitions. I doubt that I'm fundamentally capable of achieving everything I ever desired for . Like I'm not "worthy " of achieving those goals . I have a lot of limiting beliefs and stuff like "I'm not good enough " and else from this ilk . How to remove those mental barriers and really open my mind to the possibility that I am in fact capable of transforming my life into the life I truly want ? I haven't made dreamboard yet ..I just type the stuff I want on my ipad . I'm very lazy and I procrastinate a lot and I get lost in too much theory and less taking action. How to deal with all this ? Any advice appreciated. Thanks.

The sentiment that money can’t buy happiness has been around for decades. Often, those who are struggling with their finances will scoff at it, thinking that they would be happier with more money, less debt, etc. Don’t get me wrong ,having money is helpful. Knowing that your bills will be paid each month, that you’re working towards paying down your debts, and that you have extra leftover to save and spend can certainly reduce stress. I think You have to be happy in the first place, adding money certainly takes some issues out of the blender of life, but without being truly happy inside the money will not solve that issue. In my practice, people tend to come to me and say if I could only get my debt resolved and have money I’d be happy. We resolve the debt but that doesn’t mean it makes people happier, it sometimes just is another thing people want to get done like a project. I think The reality is that happiness is internal and comes from a deep understanding of your true self and that takes time for many people to come to terms with understanding what they need and want.

What really affects our happiness more than how much money we have or make is our attitude toward money and the way that we handle it. So it is very important to develop the right attitude toward money and keep in in a healthy place. If you stick to the belief that money directly determines happiness, you can get stuck in a cycle of constantly wanting to accumulate more. More money, more stuff, but never feeling like it’s enough.

Thanks for the replies guys ! I think The challenge with “money can’t buy happiness” is that it’s only partly correct. When we think typically about spending money, we tend to think about spending money on stuff : a new car, a new TV, the latest headphones and so on. However, as human beings with complex brains, we also adapt to new things in our environment remarkably well over time. That “new” TV? At some point, you get used to the larger size, the high-quality definition, the excellent sound quality, and it’s just the TV now. That “new” car? At some point, you get used to the heated lush seats, the backup camera, the great satellite radio, and the other great features, and it’s just the car now. Psychologists call this the “hedonic treadmill” .we get used to new things, and they become “old things” and we decide that we need even newer things to replace them. I think Another reason that buying stuff won’t make us happy is that we tend to compare ourselves to those around us our family, our neighbors, Hollywood stars, people in ads, and so on.

@MazE if not all the rich are happy nor all the poor are sad , why do people spend their time running after riches and who waste their lives and their chance of welfare and happiness in their lifetime ? Likewise :It is said that money is the root of all devils ; many envy their neighbours , brothers , sisters or even thier parents , or feel frustrated only because they can't afford all that is displayed in shopwindows . Therefore , Are we free or obliged to be rich or poor by destiny since we open our eyes in this world ? and if the richness and poverty are two exams humankind involved in in this world , which one is the best to be rich or poor ? so why we don't have equal status since it is calculated by destiny as a symbole of the almighty unknown force

In our society in this era ,so much attention been paid to the ways of how to earn money .We live in a world that depends completely on money ,and so The language of money becomes the common language that everybody learns from an early age .Many hate each other just because of money , many love each other just because of money ,and many impose themselves just because of money . Money becomes the family whereby one feels security as well as the weapon whereby he or she feels existance .But does money bring happiness ?are all rich people happy ? Most people assume that “things” will lead to more happiness than “experiences.” Physical objects..such as the latest iPhone, handbag, or car etc last longer than say going to a concert, taking a cooking class, or going on vacation. Buying things does make us happy, at least in the short term. In the long-term, however, we habituate to new things and even though they may have made us excited and happy at first, eventually the item becomes the new normal and fades into the background. What do you guys think about this topic ? Is the magical key to happiness is simply more money ?or is the subject more nuanced than that ?

@howisitsoactivehere what makes you think you have no free will ?

The next time you’re talking to yourself, in your mind, ask yourself this question: Who or what is talking to who? Are there two different people in your head, one that is talking and one that is listening? If not, then it’s kind of weird that you would need to have a conversation with just yourself in your head. After all, it’s you who’s doing the talking, and you’d think that you would already know what you were going to say to yourself. So what’s up with that? This self-talk is such a normal, everyday occurrence, and yet it points to something very deep about you as a person: the self is not an entity. It is not a little person or some kind of essence within you. Instead, the ego, or sense of self, is a construction. It is made of pieces. Experiencing this aspect of the ego directly, for yourself, is probably one of the more profound experiences a human being is capable of. It is, in fact, the essence of awakening, or at least the beginning of it.

What kind of routine? I feel like it's not worth it because of health consequences yet despite that I keep smoking ? Any insight as to why I do this ?

I just can't put the damn cigarettes down .even tho it's ruining my health .i need help. This is an absolute necessity. I cannot continue like this. im raping my health. Yet all this doesn't seem to make me stop. I have other reasons that I believe are making it difficult for me but I won't get into them here to not make this too abstract. it's affecting my physical.. Mental.. And psychological health to a very disturbing degree. It's not possible to live a healthy life without putting it down. If I don't quit.. It will catch up with me more and more and eventually I will end up having lungs cancer or whatever. I'm a heavy smoker. 4 packs a week or something is too much. And I'm already starting to feel the negative consequences. I can't run without feeling like losing my breath completely. My energy is getting lower. My appetite is decreased. And a lot more. Time to take this shit seriously and stop.

@Indisguise what a coincidence 😂

It is hard to accept that a loving God would destroy your entire life and leave you paralyzed from head to toe. He did good actually coping with his situation, many people would ended thier lives or become depressed and unfunctional if this happened to them. It is a tragedy but it seems God loves tragedies too. We all pay the price of existence, some of us pay it more than others. The price is suffering. Yet despite his suffering he was one of the greatest scientists to ever exist. Mad respect to him . Yes we can see the body obviously. With the mind it gets a little bit tricky .because what is the mind ? Its not like there is an entity into itself called "the mind ". Its just a bundle of thoughts. But when I say the mind I mean consciousness or spirit .or whatever you wanna call it .basically our true Nature. Which is divine nature .that's what separate us from animals. If we are talking about that then no we cannot see it because it is the seer itself .the eye can't see itself. The knife can't cut itself. The tongue can't taste itself etc .

Nice perspective and a new way of looking at it .I hadn't thought about it like this before. Thanks friend 🙏

@Mandy thanks. For not much other than I like Stephen hawking

@Mandy Help me out because I’m not an expert in the field, but it seems to me that we only have empirical evidence of the differentiation of the mind and the body recently through so-called near-death experiences. Right now we have the ability to raise people who have been clinically dead and they talk about their minds separating from their body. So, I think this is empirical evidence that the mind and the body are not the same or that there’s part of the mind which is not part of the body. Do you think this near-death experience is compelling evidence for the difference between the mind and the body?

If something is physical, if it’s a body, it’s extended in space, it’s located in space, it’s publicly observable, it’s quantifiable and measurable. But if we think of the mind as a thing, going back to the former idea of the soul, then the soul does not seem to take up space, or at least not in the same way. It doesn’t exclude other physical objects from space. It has no definite location in space, and it’s not the sort of thing that can be publicly observed as we expect in science, where we’re acquainted with our mind or our soul most directly through introspection. So I'm not aware of any identity other than the physical body .I mean what else could I be? Isn't that aligned with direct experience?

@Mandy do you have evidence that consciousness survives physical death ? are near death experiences a decent evidence that consciousness survives physical death ? And why does all people who experienced an NDE report the same thing ? The long tunnel with the bright white light at the end , and seeing their body from above as if they astral projected ?

@Phil I'm not sure what to do with your posts .they are kinda ambiguous and hard for me to understand you correctly. So I will just go on my own here and describe what I'm experiencing as of late... To answer your opening question: no I'm not doing the panic attacks. They happen to me. A big component of them is that they happen unexpectedly and completely out of the blue .and they actually make you feel you've lost control over yourself and reality (your surroundings) permanently and you are not getting it back. Of course that comes just with the fear and its not true. After about half an hour you calm down and you re-gain your control over reality . It’s actually completely understandable to have anxiety around death, even though it is inevitable. But I notice my fear of death increases whenever I experience a panic attack. What im trying to do to not let death anxiety hinder my day to day life. For some of us, contemplating death can cause intense anxiety and fear. It’s why death anxiety is a recognized mental health disorder with its own name: Thanatophobia. It’s considered a phobia if the fear arises virtually every time you think about death or the death of a loved one.if the fear persists for more than six months..or if the fear prevents you from functioning in everyday life or relationships. If this describes your anxiety, then you've got a huge problem. It becomes difficult to function In everyday life. The lesson im trying to learn is that there is a danger of missing out on so much if we don’t appreciate even the most ordinary of days. we do not notice each passing moment, perhaps take others for granted and we do not appreciate the value of this precious human life. But if we live with our mortality as a daily experience, then we will live a happier and healthier life. So that might be a benefit of remembering death. In gaining a better appreciation of all the cruel twists and unknowns, i become more skilled at the art of living .making the most of what i have, making each moment count. In facing death, in accepting that it comes to us all one day, we not only have the opportunity to shift our perspective but to also expand our awareness around life itself. I'm trying to see the bright side of the situation. And the benefits of my panic attacks and death anxiety.

I'm still not sure how by visiting a cemetery it will help me overcome fear of death . I actually visited a cemetery before at the death of one of my dad's friends and i was crippling in fear and I experienced intense panic attack. This fear reaction can become so severe that people experience a panic attack. A panic attack is an abrupt fear with symptoms such as a pounding heartbeat, shortness of breath, shaking, feelings of unreality or detachment,and a fear of losing control or dying. Panic attacks are often extremely unpleasant, so people may begin to avoid any situation where they might encounter the fear source that triggers an attack. For example, a person with necrophobia might avoid taking a certain route so that they do not have to pass by a cemetery or funeral home. That's what I would do.

How do you know? Did you die before and came back to life to tell us that ?

How? All that's there is decaying Corpses and decayed bodies hat turned into ashes and dirt and rot in the soil. If I visit a cemetery it will actually increase my fear of death .sorry about being upfront about it .

Its not your choice. You will inevitably be anxious about death at some point In your life .especially as you get older and closer and closer to your death .the last two decades of your life will be bombarded by death anxiety .that's just how it is .its not like you can escape death by avoiding thinking about it .

Sure .I will check it out .thanks

Yes .what's the significance of that in relation to my question?

No one .