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Trust me ..the dating situation in India sucks big time . Just yesterday i approached two girls cold approach ..the first one said "leave me alone or I will call the security ".lol. The next one took my number but didn't call me back . Girls here are unexperienced and they think being approached is like an insult to them or something they should avoid .

Sorry that was a typo . I meant in my definition.

It's really hard to find hookers in India.

Well it's complicated 😕. Because in my detention getting what I want equals happiness. So they are really the same thing . So I have no choice .either I achieve what I want ASAP or I will be miserable til then. I would find pleasure in achieving a goal. To motivate myself to do better in life I set long term and short term. Speaking from experience it tends to be the goals with no material or monitary value which bring me the euphoria you feel from achievements. My motivation is for things for example im sure i would get some pride knowing i aquired the object through hard work and honesty. Although Your other post made me reconsider my whole approach to the sex thing .like why do i feel like I NEED sex to be happy .every time i have an orgasm ..I feel kinda disillusioned and disappointed..like it wasn't that much of a big deal.

@Phil so my main problem is I don't have what I want right here right now .although I want it right here right now (I don't want to put on the effort or wait the necessary time until I achieve it ). So what is the solution to that ?

Yeah but that's the reality of the matter .I'm single. So I don't have women sleeping with me every night. So I'm not attracting women. And yes I do feel needy and desparate. And it kinda shows in my behaviour when I'm trying to approach. That I'm an amature boy (rather than a real confident man) who's crying for the goodies (desparate for women to sleep with me ). If I'm being brutally honest ..the intention is to have sex .as its clear from the title of this thread .I just want pussy (sorry if I'm using vulgar/dirty language and you dislike it on your forum ,please let me know ). I myself am the needy one .I know it kinda emasculates me but it is what it is I think women love to have guys wanting them but not to the point of kissing their feet (being needy ,I mean ).so my desparate and needy vibe is a complete turn-off for most women and I know It. But how do I change it ? I haven't slept with a single women my entire life.and I'm approaching my 30s. A lot of my online friends have had sex .so I think I need it because I'm not getting it .and it's a basic biological need that is not satisfied within me . I turn to pornography and masturbation and I fool myself into thinking that I'm actually having a sex life .but of course it's a facade .it's a fake

@Mandy hold on a second. Gotta Google what that is lol

@Mandy he told me to write whatever I want exactly on the dreamboard. And then letting go of any limiting beliefs ,resistance, or thoughts that suggest that I can't do it . That was the first step .and I believe I have done it .now what's the next step? I need to grap my balls like a fucking man and go approach/tallk to girls, don't I?

@PhilPhi OK so I wrote that i want to have sex with a blue eyed blonde petite teen girl 😅 What do I do next?

Great stuff. Thanks for that . I just have one question..and that is how exactly do we transition from "on paper " to "in the flesh "? You know what I mean? Let's say I wrote everything down .all the details. Yeah I want sex with a beautiful girl .and her body type is yada yada .and her eyes color is yada yada and her personality is so on and so forth etc .... How then is that supposed to be actualized in my life ? I can't just write it down and wish for it to magically happen like the universe will grant me a wish or something lol. What's the action steps ? What to do after I write it in the dreamboard? How do i approach? What do I say ? What are the strategies of dating ? Should I look into dating apps online or should I go out and approach girls in public (in malls and such because there's no night clubs nearby)?

You know a lot about the law of attraction. I first (when I was first introduced to it)thought it is pseudoscience and wishful thinking but I realized that indeed what I think about a lot ,tends to appear in my life as if out of nowhere. Can you teach me how to attract hot women into my life using loA?

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@Orb no I have to become financially independent first and have my own house .

Pardon my profane title (its just to attract attention ) ..I'm really really serious about this .. I'm so sexually suppressed..I just want to have sex by any means possible..I don't care if I have to pay for a prostitute for a one night deal .even though it goes against my moral compass. Still ..it's hard to even find prostitutes in my country or girls who are willing to sleep with you for money . But what should I do? I'm kinda bored of porn and masturbation. It doesn't "do it " for me anymore .I want to try the real thing .the problem is that it's possible the only way I can have sex is by getting married. And that won't happen until I finish university and find a job and stablize for few years (find a house, become financially independent of my parents etc ). And so that is gonna take few years to come. Does that mean I have to wait for fucking years before I can have sex? I just hate it . Dno really just venting here . Any advice or clarity appreciated.

OK thanks But any suggestions what should I write about ? Just a rough estimate: Should I write about philosophical topics and contemplating reality (you know I like doing that).or keep it more "practical " ..just about my goals and everyday situations etc I think im not that good at writing text walls (long essays)..so I should I keep every post in the journal limited to a small portion of words ? Or just let my thoughts race and write as much as I want free from all these concerns?

I feel like I can't journal honestly. I always end up writing something that I'm imagining someone else will read? Or as soon as I get to the honest bits I get ashamed and then start correcting myself on the page like I know someone is reading it. Not sure how to get past it. Also I don't believe I'm a good writer in general. I've had few journals in the actualized forum before ..but I wasn't satisfied with them. I always wondered how come most people's journals were arty and skilful while mine suck 😅 So if you have few suggestions or an outline to start a journal..please Share . thanks Phil.

@Phil OK I understand now . So by expressing my thoughts and desires it helps me organise them and not just leave them as cluster in my mind and that can bring clarity to what I want ,what I don't want ,and how much actual progress I'm making in this direction or that ?

@Phil what exactly Is an expression journal? And how can it help me achieve my goals ?

Thank you guys for the advice .I have few questions though. I tried approaching girls a lot these last few months but I always come off as cringe-worthy and a simp. I have this neediness and desperate vibe ..should I even approacha a girl when I'm not preparing what I should say along the conversation? . As some smart friend of mine said , it will decrease your social value. A guy that hungrily go after women and tell them they are attractive will be treated as a pariah, unless he is of-the-chart gorgeous. And those guys rarely do it, because they don't have to. I then Started talking about something she does instead. A guy that shows interest in personality or current events is incredibly attractive. Sure, every girl wants compliments. But given randomly, they are just a sign of hunger. Attractive women know they are attractive. Most women, attractive or not, have had desperate guys literally following them on the streets, telling them cringey things ("Your eyes are like stars" and other nonsense). The woman smell the desperation and pity them. Have you ever seen the dream boat guy do this in a romantic movie? No, because it sends chills up the spine for most girls, and we don't consider it alluring. High quality men read the situation. They say something witty about it. The woman will secretly think "does he find me attractive?" She will automatically want him to be drawn to her and work towards that. She will feel a little insecure; "why doesn't he comment on my looks like the other 99 percent of fools?" She will wonder if he already is interested in other women and feel slightly jealous. He obviously doesn't need sex from her, he is too confident. Now that sparks interest. Most women can have as much sex as they want really, basically at any time. There are tons of men willing to give all kinds of compliments out there to get laid, even if the girl looks like Shrek. So what exactly do girls want from a guy ? Compliments? Looks ? Confidence? Or does it vary from girl to girl ? Thanks.

The idea that you attract to your life what you think about/dream about too often . I noticed it work on my Food cravings .One minute, I'll be saying "pancakes", and then a friend calls me out and says he wants to treat me pancakes. Other times, it could be just a simple thought, and a few hours/days/weeks later, it just pops out of nowhere. With people as well ..Whenever you think of someone, you establish a psychic connection with that person. Sometimes, you might be randomly talking about someone to your friends, and out of the blue, this guy just pops out of nowhere. Or, it might be just that you suddenly thought of him/her and missed him/her ..and that person just appears in an unexpected way. When you really want something, it always appears.

@Mandy are you referring to the law of attraction?

@MazE Any tips on how to be good on socializing? . I want to become socially dominant and attract people to me magnetically with ease. I want to put in work now improving looks (building my body, taking care of my skin, whitening my teeth,etc The problem is that taking notes on every interaction and trying to improve started making my social anxiety (which was less before) way worse and I started basing a lot of my self worth on how well I did in social interactions (How many ppl like me and how many people I made laugh and how cool I appeared to ppl). Now obviously with this much pressure, I started to shit socially because I was up in my head overanalyzing EVERYTHING. Now I am just focusing on improving myself in other ways and just talking to ppl with no outcome dependence. This is gonna take work to rewire my brain but I can do it! I have the power to change and since I don't like the way I feel and am thinking of myself I am gonna focus on improving in other places of my life. I still want to build an amazing social circle and be a "social god/high value man". Any tips on what I should do now. And have YOU ever went through a similar situation of having too many high expectations?

OK so I'm single and I wish to date an attractive girl. I have some homosexual tendencies but i think I'm bisexual leaning more towards straight. So the ratio Is something like 70% straight and 30% gay . But anyways ..I don't picture myself marrying a guy ..I want to date a girl .the problem is I'm introverted . I suck at socializing with people..especially strangers ..especially girls . I have almost zero experience in dating . So I want to know how to take action in this area in my life and how to actually get a girlfriend. I need to mention that I live in a third world country where there is not bars and night clubs and sexuality in general is a taboo and most people are sexually suppressed.

Good point.

@Eothasian just one ?😅