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Sex is also an idea of commitment. It means hormones, bonding, oxytocin. 

We long each other through sex. Sex has a therapeutic effect on the mind. Like any other thing, it can be done either mindfully or mindlessly. 

When someone does it mindlessly it's only for pleasure. There's no difference between such sex and watching porn, literally  it's only supposed to trigger the pleasure centers of the brain. Also it corrupts the idea of infatuation. The one that is needed for bonding. Then why don't we just get off porn? What I have found in my observation is that no amount of porn-like sex can ever satisfy me. Whether it's porn or sex in that form, it's the same thing. It's empty. It's like casual sex. Casual sex has no meaning. Fundamentally it's sex, agreed. Yet it's meaningless and mindless monkey sex. You might even start hating sex if you constantly get aroused on it. Because there's no intimacy, simple. It's not passionate, just animalistic and hormone driven. But if you are attracted to someone, the sex is passionate, there's a fluidity, a passion, a chemistry, romance and the culmination of mutual pleasuring finally into climax and orgasm. This needs a certain magnetism and chemistry. An intensity. This could be with or without being in love. It'll appear closer to casual sex yet it has shades of polarity to achieve the idea of romantic passionate sex. It makes you feel aroused and wanting to like the person who you sleep with. That's why the phrase "catch feelings." the other type of sex would be the one where you're genuinely in love and loyal to the other person and the kind of sex you have is loving, cuddly and emotional. It's affectionate and helps intensify the bond. 

So yes sex shouldn't have to be mindless. It is just as meaningful as anything else. Sex is like bread. It might appear simple like bread. Now you can eat bread or you can eat toast. 

I hope you get my idea and where I'm trying to go with this. 


So basically I'm an autistic INFJ BPD sigma Pisces female with anger and CPTSD issues. Wow wow. 

My plate looks full. I Couldn't have been weirder than that. Now I get why I'm so idiosyncratic. 

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