Orb Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 I'm scared of making friends with people, I don't wanna weird them out. I don't wanna bother people. Quote Mention ♾️ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orb Posted January 23, 2023 Author Share Posted January 23, 2023 Inviting a friend for a coffee or starting a friendship feels weird. Quote Mention ♾️ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orb Posted January 23, 2023 Author Share Posted January 23, 2023 I get nervous just like when I am gonna ask a girl out. I think it's fear of rejection. Quote Mention ♾️ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WhiteOwl Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 You need to challenge those beliefs and assumptions. The more you think those thoughts and believe them, the more of that reality you will get. It will have the same consequence over and over again, until you do something differently. Coming from someone who have dealt with it and still do. "I am willing to try to think differently". "I am willing to challenge what i believe, maybe i will feel better than i thought around new people". Try to slowly work your way up like that. What thought could feel better that isn't going overboard like "Everything is perfect". Save for that later until it resonates more. And getting nervous sometimes is completely fine, almost everyone does. And again, what about the thought "Maybe my nervousness might not be so bad" "Maybe my meeting with that girl will be a lot better than i expected". When you sit in your room and think/ruminate about these things, that is just what is happening. You are sitting in your room thinking thoughts, and those thoughts keep you in a loop. The reality of it is only inside your mind. I imagine a cartoon with a person in a room with a huuuge speaking bubble with 76123876 words. What would you tell that person if they were saying the things you are saying? Hope that was a little helpful and didn't come off as cold ❤️ only trying to help ❤️ Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 The freedom is in expressing that fear is experienced, insecurity is experienced, and jealousy is experienced. Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orb Posted January 23, 2023 Author Share Posted January 23, 2023 @WhiteOwl yea thanks for the reminder i get lost in the sauce sometimes.b@Phil i gotta print out that scale and tape it to my wall or something. Quote Mention ♾️ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eternal Posted January 23, 2023 Share Posted January 23, 2023 1 hour ago, Orb said: i gotta print out that scale and tape it to my wall or something. @OrbThat's a good idea. That is what I did when I was very depressed. Made a wallpaper on my phone, set it to my computer wallpaper, printed it out and stuck it to my wall. Always keep the emotional scale in mind and whenever negative thoughts arise, just simply pull out a journal and self express. Use the negative thoughts as a tool for growth, self-expression and self-recognition 🙂 Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orb Posted January 23, 2023 Author Share Posted January 23, 2023 @Eternal Thanks for the advice, will do! 🙂 Quote Mention ♾️ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandy Posted January 24, 2023 Share Posted January 24, 2023 If you're cutting onions, and you're afraid the onions might sting your eyes before you're done cutting them up, just immediately rub some onion in your eyes. If you're afraid someone will shoot you in the foot for whatever reason, what you should do is just shoot yourself in the foot first. Quote Mention Youtube Channel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
solereproduction Posted January 25, 2023 Share Posted January 25, 2023 (edited) On 1/22/2023 at 7:20 PM, Orb said: I'm scared of making friends with people, I don't wanna weird them out. I don't wanna bother people. That is instinctive, not intellectual. it is a good thing to have. Language arts is a deception waiting to happen and you have experienced enough let down to know friends are allies of those made you their enemy. Friends won't enable doubt unless they are friends in need of constant assurances they mean something to others less in social stature than themselves. Kind of goes with leaderships and fellowships. Lead by example requires taking your own direction navigating time you coexist with everything else. But in doing so you become labeled anti-social, selfish, greedy, arrogant, blah blah blah. Freedom is given, not taken. By becoming as self reliant as possible, one unburdens everyone else from being responsible for their time evolving here now. To demand human rights to congregate to the point anyone resisting is insubordinate, traitor, blasphemy then the group won't accept life as evolving in plain sight. I have complete empathy for what you descibe, and I offer what I discovered simply adapting to the moment. Edited January 25, 2023 by solereproduction correct spelling Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.