Orb Posted July 17, 2023 Share Posted July 17, 2023 I was at a bar talking with this cute kava tender and we really vibed 🥰. Her eyes were lit up and I had a smile on my face and would involuntarily laugh while we talked.  But then we disagreed on something and I felt awkward because I don't know how to have a disagreement with someone without resisting what they're saying.  Like a girl will say I hate apples, and I'll be like apples are awesome, and then she'll say no apples are the devil and I hate them, and I'll say no apples are the greatest fruit in the world! And it goes on and on like that, both of us resisting each other opinions.  Then I begin to keep a fake smile on my face to avoid showing that I'm actually distressed with the situation.  I notice when I'm talking to a cute girl I avoid confrontation, I feel like I'll lose the girls interest if I get confrontational, what do I do? Quote Mention "Mediocrity is gone. Mind is clear of limitation. I seek no state of enlightenment. Neither do I remain where no enlightenment exists. Since I linger in neither condition, eyes cannot see me. If hundreds of birds strew my path with flowers, such praise would be meaningless." - A Comment on the 8th Ox Herding Picture Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Devin Posted July 18, 2023 Share Posted July 18, 2023 Correct your language. Â Apples are great. No apples suck. Really? I love apples! (not apples are great) When it feels argumentative state opinions as opinions not facts. Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose Posted July 18, 2023 Share Posted July 18, 2023 Yea I agree, I don’t know why you have to state your opinion as a fact. Are you comfortable with someone disagreeing with you? Do issues you disagree on really matter to you? Are they disagreeing with your core values?   Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandy Posted July 18, 2023 Share Posted July 18, 2023 😂  I'd just eat the apple. Quote Mention  Youtube Channel  Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted July 18, 2023 Share Posted July 18, 2023 What did you disagree about?  What does ‘resisting what they’re saying’ mean?  Is it or is it not known - ‘both of us resisting each other’s…’.  Maybe you want her not to disagree with you so you can feel better about yourself. ‘Be the change you wish to see’.  Anything from The Six Pillars come to bat here? Quote Mention YouTube  Website  Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reena Posted July 23, 2023 Share Posted July 23, 2023 Try not to come across as preachy. You try to shove down. Nobody likes that. Quote Mention So basically I'm an autistic INFJ BPD sigma Pisces female with anger and CPTSD issues. Wow wow. My plate looks full. I Couldn't have been weirder than that. Now I get why I'm so idiosyncratic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orb Posted July 23, 2023 Author Share Posted July 23, 2023 @Devin @Cupcake @Phil @Mandy @Rose  Thanks for the feedback everybody.  I haven't finished the six pillars, I stopped reading it a while back lol. Quote Mention "Mediocrity is gone. Mind is clear of limitation. I seek no state of enlightenment. Neither do I remain where no enlightenment exists. Since I linger in neither condition, eyes cannot see me. If hundreds of birds strew my path with flowers, such praise would be meaningless." - A Comment on the 8th Ox Herding Picture Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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