Blessed2 Posted July 31 Share Posted July 31 With this non-duality & loa 'understanding'... How does raising kids 'work'? Or, how has it been? Like for example, when the teenage years come and they start going to parties perhaps, maybe drinking, experimenting with drugs, having sex... Or maybe being bullied or bullying others, failing exams... The "right and wrong" behaviour, throwing tantrums etc... Or how about time limits? When to be home, when to go to sleep etc? "Setting the rules" and "parenting" ? I mean... You gotta set some rules, right? Or not? Quote Mention I am the playful and ever-present Source, joyfully embracing every thought and emotion as part of my perfect, unfolding co-creative dream. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandy Posted July 31 Share Posted July 31 Basically just love em. Guidelines come from love, I myself have a loosely enforced bedtime because I feel best going to sleep and waking up around the same time, so it happens naturally and so naturally as part of the household the kids have one too. Communication, relationship, and love is all parenting is. Bullying has been a bit of challenge lately. I think that you recognize more clearly that your kids attract for themselves and you can't control their environments to make them perfect for them. However dealing with or addressing those things is also just communication, mostly with your own kid, whether victim or perpetrator, and sometimes with school faculty and sometimes with other parents. A lot of the motivation to come down too hard on kids or to be way to permissive and dismissive or their behavior comes from the need to see oneself as perfect and good, and therefore see your kids as an extension of you. That's what obscures things. Kids that feel that they're unconditionally loved have less of a need to try to push buttons. Quote Mention Youtube Channel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bob Seeker Posted October 13 Share Posted October 13 On 7/31/2024 at 6:58 PM, Mandy said: Bullying has been a bit of challenge lately But bullying would probably be way less in certain schools/education environments. I guess it depends how much action you want to take to reduce their exposure vs helping them cope with it. Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted October 13 Share Posted October 13 On 7/31/2024 at 1:53 PM, Blessed2 said: With this non-duality & loa 'understanding'... How does raising kids 'work'? Or, how has it been? With is a misnomer. Nonduality & loa are This without the beliefs in understanding, time & separate selves. On 7/31/2024 at 1:53 PM, Blessed2 said: Like for example, when the teenage years come and they start going to parties perhaps, maybe drinking, experimenting with drugs, having sex... Would still be beliefs. More accurately, are presently experienced beliefs. On 7/31/2024 at 1:53 PM, Blessed2 said: Or maybe being bullied or bullying others, failing exams... Still beliefs, and signs of, an illusion of, ignore-ance (of emotional guidance). The identity label obscures the suppression, like the label anxiety obscures emotions felt. On 7/31/2024 at 1:53 PM, Blessed2 said: The "right and wrong" behaviour, throwing tantrums etc... Or how about time limits? When to be home, when to go to sleep etc? "Setting the rules" and "parenting" ? I mean... You gotta set some rules, right? Or not? No. There’s no you. It’s not a joke or a nondual quip. It’s already the case. Reality doesn’t consist of time & people. Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bob Seeker Posted October 13 Share Posted October 13 1 hour ago, Phil said: The identity label obscures the suppression Could we unpack this please. Are you saying the belief in selves hides that emotional guidance that there is suppression of emotion? Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted October 13 Share Posted October 13 @Bob Seeker The labelling of sep selves feels off because there aren’t any. The believing of the label is the overlooking or suppression of - that the labeling feels off & why. Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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