Resisting Resistance

[Orb]

I've been sitting down wondering what specific condition is being held for happiness to be felt. 

 

The condition held is that I have to be feeling good in order to allow happiness. 

 

I feel drained from watching lots of porn and overeating, and I notice that I cannot let go of the condition held (that I must be free from porn and not feeling drained to allow happiness). 

 

Then I try to let go of the condition, but it only makes things worse. 

 

Like first there's resistance, then there's resisting the resistance by trying to make it go away. 

 

Is it better to try to let go of resistance or to stop resisting the resistance and just suffer 🤔.  

 

What if the key to end suffering is to fully allow suffering without the added suffering of trying to make the suffering stop?

Edited June 8, 2023 by Orb

[ConsciousDreamer666]

I´ve found that seeing that your suffering is your 'assigned karma' helps a lot in accepting it.

 

See your suffering as the fuel that has been created for you in order to get to liberation

 

Over indulging in porn sucks, I know how that feels. But im sure it's not that bad, at least probably you are not into hot brats taking your money and humiliating you harshly for it as me. 🤣 

 

 

Edited June 8, 2023 by ConsciousDreamer666

[Loop]

13 hours ago, Orb said:

Is it better to try to let go of resistance or to stop resisting the resistance and just suffer 🤔.  

Isn’t the idea that you have to stop or let go of the resistance actually the resistance?
There isn’t anything to let go of, or the letting go of is actually just what is naturally occurring constantly.
Impermanence. 
 

It is ok to just feel some of something and then go back to it. Breathe in and out. Inquire, relax, inquire, relax. Focus on the intention, on curiosity, and well-being. 
 

Here is the thing with the trapped resistance energies. They are trying to protect you, and it might not be time for defence mechanisms/ armouring to be let go of. Deprogram slowly with intense passionate curiosity and smooth calm relaxation. You don’t need to process the entirety of a repressed/ suppressed energy all right now today. We can allow ourself space/ time, to breathe, to allow the resistance to settle, repression to come out from the inside, and the stories trapped in the body to melt through expression. 
 

[Phil]

@Orb

What’s known about you, such that it’s known you are not happiness?

[Orb]

@Phil what's known is I, Myself, You, Me, exists. Thoughts of conversations with people arise still. I want to forget self and other.

[Phil]

@Orb

Does exists = not happiness? 

[Orb]

3 minutes ago, Phil said:

@Orb

Does exists = not happiness? 

In a way yea. 

[Phil]

@Orb

What is specifically known such that this is true?

[Orb]

@Phil that when thoughts about self or other arise, there's a constricted feeling and it hinders the natural expansiveness.

[Phil]

@Orb

Examples of said thoughts?

[Orb]

Just now, Phil said:

@Orb

Examples of said thoughts?

Anything with "I", monologs thoughts about what I likes, desires, is. And also just conversations with imaginary people lol.

[Phil]

@Orb

Is that you’re imagining people what’s known? 

[Orb]

1 minute ago, Phil said:

@Orb

Is that you’re imagining people what’s known? 

Yes, imagining self and other. I want to completely forget myself and others. Only Love will be left! Aka....LIFE ❤️‍🔥

[Phil]

@Orb

What is the nature of the one (said to be) imagining? 

[Orb]

@Phil there's no one there honestly, it's just a pattern of specific thoughts arising.

[Phil]

@Orb

Given how certain arising thoughts feel to no one, much is revealed about the nature of no one, yes?

Such as even a blind man can see a square peg does not fit in a round hole. 

[Orb]

@Phil yes. Somethoughts arise that don't feel good, but those thoughts are let go, there's no way to force them into aligning with feeling.

Edited June 9, 2023 by Orb

[Orb]

@Phil like self referential thoughts are arising right now, there's nothing that can be done, except stop resisting them.

[Orb]

@ConsciousDreamer666 don't let those ladies humiliate you 🥲 tell them you are that!!! And so are they 🙂

 

@Loop I like your understanding of trauma and emotional stuff. I've been doing TRE for many days in a row and letting stuff come up and out. Although it still seems like the right way so to speak is to stop resisting resistance. Like if you find yourself not satisfied with the moment, why not just stay there? Instead of saying oh no I shouldn't be resisting this moment, this is wrong.

 

 

[Phil]

1 hour ago, Orb said:

@Phil yes. Somethoughts arise that don't feel good, but those thoughts are let go, there's no way to force them into aligning with feeling.

1 hour ago, Orb said:

@Phil like self referential thoughts are arising right now, there's nothing that can be done, except stop resisting them.

Agreed but even more so it’s telling you who you really are. Guidance.