Daniel
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6 hours ago, Joseph Maynor said:
So emotional mastery is not letting stupid things trigger you.
In reality, we have no control over whether we're triggered or not, and trying to control it only leads to emotional repression and denial - we turn into a powder keg of repressed emotion, and an explosive outburst becomes much more likely.
What we can control is how we respond to being triggered - we can become more unconscious and react from a place of inner resistance, or we can bring attention to that inner resistance and allow it to release, and then respond from a place of non-resistance. Sometimes the best thing is to simply walk away, but it can also feel like the hardest thing because there's something in us that so badly wants to lash out in some way.
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@Jonas Long @Joseph Maynor Fascinating stuff, there's a lot more depth to that quote than I realised! Thanks for sharing the video, Joseph, very illuminating stuff.
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4 hours ago, Jonas Long said:
Interestingly he always felt that that quote was taken wrong. In French it translates to something closer to "hell is the "other""...hell is the "2nd self" maybe.
Interesting. Also a little disappointing.😆
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2 hours ago, Joseph Maynor said:
No people.
Jean-Paul Sartre would agree.😄
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8 hours ago, Phil said:
Why not unban all of the ‘users’ banned not from breaking guidelines, but from administrative bantrums, and issue an apology?
Alignment & well-being wise this is kind of a no brainer isn’t it?
Checks & balances could be added to the guidelines as far as allowing bans due to mistaken spiritual authority, superiority & elitism.
You were only initially demoted, weren't you? I thought you only got banned after you tried to bring members of his forum over to this one.
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4 hours ago, Reena said:
But isn't that true in real life that people reward narcissism.
Maybe, but that wasn't the point I was making.
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@Reborn A big red flag for me was when he made a comment a few months back about how humility is bullshit and sometimes arrogance is justified, I thought that spoke volumes about his mentality.
Ugh, anyway, I don't want to turn this into a Leo-bashing thread, so that's the last I'll say on the subject.
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3 hours ago, Reena said:
Leo does what Leo wants. It's like that.
Pretty much.
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4 hours ago, Reborn said:
Well, the "game" is a bullshit concept in and of itself, these people act like human interactions can be summed up into some sort of a system, and you can play social situations as if it was an RPG game, that you just have to upgrade some stats, and it'll get you women, friends etc. And the principles they often preach about, that are actually general truths, are like, common sense things, such as be confident or flirt. So, since the base of the whole building is built on bullshit, then the whole building is bullshit, and therefore all the moderators, and all the discussions there are full of shit. No wonder there are no women present in those discussions.
The whole thing just seems symptomatic of a culture of instant gratification to me, it just seems like more pleasure-seeking without thinking about the consequences of your actions for yourself or other people. It seems like a very shallow pursuit to me.
4 hours ago, Reborn said:Leo does likely have some sort of narcissism, imo. Obviously just a speculation, but it's likely imo
Does seem that way. I get the sense that he's actually deeply damaged and dysfunctional.
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6 hours ago, Reborn said:
Yes, I feel like some of them have very underdeveloped self awareness and just humbleness in general, they really believe their own bullshit. One of them I found particuliarly annoying, he was always hanging out in the dating section, talking about how you have no "Game" and shit like that, his posts contained a lot of grammar mistakes, and a lot of his statements were utterly illogical and he contradicted himself a lot, which was sometimes noticable within that very same thread/topic. Then there's a lot of people there who aren't mods yet, but keep being fucking smartasses about everything, so some of them will eventually become one, I'm sure. There's one of those in particuliar whom I won't name, but everyone who'll take a trip to that forum will be able to detect him, cause he's everywhere and he thinks he has the Truth in everything. So fucking annoying. How are these people even real
Mm, I personally wouldn't make a person a moderator who even uses the word 'game' in that context (I find that whole scene rather insufferable and immature), but there you go, Leo obviously has very different values to me. A forum tends to get moulded into the image of its creators, it seems to me, people will often ape the behaviour of the leader - which is unfortunate in the case of actualized, because I don't think Leo's a good role-model as far as his general conduct goes.
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2 hours ago, Reena said:
This is going to be the case on most forums because it's in human nature to be corrupted by power.
It takes an awful amount of personal pride and moral integrity to not fall for human games and one's own ego.
This is very true, and moderators do provide the service free of charge (well, I'm assuming?) so I guess I shouldn't have too high expectations of them really, and I should try to keep things in perspective. It's a minor bugbear really, I just felt like getting it off my chest.
6 hours ago, Mandy said:Moderators also aren't allowed to ignore users. There's a lot of time and money that goes into a forum. If you don't appreciate all that goes into it and keeps it running that's fine, but it really is just a resource offered to you at no cost.
It's a fair point, I really should acknowledge and appreciate the effort and expense that you guys put into it more.
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This complaint doesn't just relate to this place, it's also applicable to a couple of other forums I go on, including actualized.org. It wouldn't be a problem if the moderators that were selected were mature, responsible people, but far too often that isn't the case - often they're egotistical, condescending, or just plain obnoxious and tiresome (Leo's selection of moderators in particular I just find baffling at times, so often he seems to select people who really aren't well-suited for the role - maybe there's a dearth of good candidates, I don't know). But because they're moderators, you can't hide their posts, I'm assuming because this would in some way hinder their ability to moderate?
I know it's not very important in the grand scheme of things, it's just a feature that does bug me because the behaviour of some of these people really gets under my skin at times, and I'd like to banish them to my ignore list so I don't have to read their nonsense but I can't.
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@Someone here So you're essentially inferring that God exists, is that right? It sounds like you believe that God exists, whereas I asked how you know It exists.
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3 minutes ago, Someone here said:
That there is a you is self-evident. Every sane human being knows that he/she exists.
We know that we exist, yes, but do we know who or what we actually are? We tend to believe that we're this temporary form that will eventually die, that has a particular name, personality traits, history, etc., but this is where we're mistaken.
6 minutes ago, Someone here said:Secondly..you think this extremely delicate universe with billions of galaxies and planets and creatures just arised out of coincidence? Lol atheism is funny . Its unfortunate that even @Phil himself is an atheist.
I've got no idea, quite honestly - I have certain beliefs about how and why it all arose, but they're all just theories, I don't know them to be true. Is it all the work of God? Who or what even is God? Again, I've got no idea. I'd go along with Jesus' assertion that God is love, and that therefore all manifestation arose out of love, essentially, but again, that's little more than a hunch.
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11 hours ago, Orb said:
Meditation isn't like the gym where you need rest days. Meditation is just not identifying with thought and therefore feeling/sensation/awareness is uncovered.
Kundalini stuff can happen sure, but not identifying with thought will only be more helpful on the process and likely speed the emptying up of the body imo.
Hasn't been my experience in practice, I've found that there have been times where it's been beneficial to ease off a little, and persisting with the practice has actually been counter-productive.
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20 minutes ago, Someone here said:
There is in fact a god ..as in a creator of the universe ..and there is in fact you .
How do you know this?
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5 hours ago, Orb said:
The kundalini stuff is great! But be very careful to recognize that the separate self is the one saying "I'm gonna take a break from meditation because of the kundalini".
It's creating an excuse to rationalize more thought activity.
It could be, but it could also be your intuition telling you that you need to ease off so that you don't completely overwhelm your nervous system. One thing I found out the hard way is that the body and mind do have their limits, I ended up feeling fried and having to take an extended break from meditation because I'd been pushing myself too hard.
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3 hours ago, Phil said:
Ha! Yeah it is. Interesting when a typo is more accurate. Must be the observer effect.
😉
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19 hours ago, Phil said:
Below is a god starting or entry-point video
Interesting slip of the tongue.😄
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12 hours ago, Jonas Long said:
So far it's only guys who are offended.
As you said, this place is a bit of a sausage-fest. And maybe people are reticent about speaking up because the person who said it is the forum's founder and supposedly an authority, so maybe they think they might be missing something. Whereas to me it just looks like shameless, extremely poorly-judged attention-seeking, and the people attempting to condone it are just enabling this sort of behaviour the same as the people who defend Leo when he starts acting like a condescending, abusive egotist.
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10 minutes ago, Jonas Long said:
It's just fuckin click bait, chill out
I doubt you'd be so blasé about it if you were a woman. I find it highly offensive, and I'm a guy.
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4 hours ago, James123 said:
What a beauty is loosing right, gaining has so much weight on it. 🙂
Oh yes.😍 And yet we tend to be so afraid to let it all go, because we think we'll be nothing without it.
Which, of course, we are - but oh, what a nothing it is.😍😍😍
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I did do some vigorous stretches before, now you mention it.😎
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Sure, I wouldn't disagree with that.