Because as a man you need to have options and by attempting to disqualify her she gets hint she is not the only one which means you are pre selected by women making you a good catch for her.
You have to drop male logical based mind in understanding women.It's all about emotions with women and arrogant guy wakes up emotions in them far more than humble guy.
So you are saying 2 spheres are prior to direct experience or that they make direct experience.How to get to that realisation when direct experience is all we got.
Yeah I experienced myself as Infinity in that state I got few spiritual insights like forgiveness for example.Yeah Alone Infinity is where I stand right now.
There are no 2 spheres in your direct experience!
In fact you never moved anywhere you can prove that with simple observation you where always here and now at exact same point.
I believe Awareness imagined body and the world to play life where nothing is separated from it despite mind telling things and people are separated from Awareness and it creates I.
There aren't any others(you never experienced their thoughts,emotions and sensory input)You only experienced yours.You can get rid of psychological self but you are left with One present moment experience.Alone and only in existence.