Kevin Posted April 24 Share Posted April 24 My entire life I’ve been terrified of talking to strangers/rejection/afraid of talking to girls. The experience was very frustrating for me. Finally I think I’m past it. In the last month I finally pushed myself to just start talking to girls. It was intermittent though. Some days I felt like I could do it and I would talk to one or two girls. Other days I felt too nervous and I would avoid it and then I would feel bad about it. Then this past weekend I was in Vegas with two of my friends and when I was there I decided to just talk to as many girls as possible. I thought that if I just talked to as many girls as possible then it would stop making me nervous. It didn’t quite work like that though. I still get nervous but the anxiety is really reduced. And honestly each time I went and talked to a girl when I was there I was so stoked afterwards. I didn’t even kiss a girl in Vegas. But it was still awesome. It was like the process itself was the reward. I had some anxiety this morning though. I was worried that I was only able to do that because I was in Vegas. But I’ve talked to three girls today. No success yet but my attitude has been so far. Just the taking action really resonates and whenever it doesn’t work out as I’d hoped, the interactions are overwhelmingly positive. And my attitude is always “god is clearing the way for something better”. Who knows if this new attitude will stick, but it feels like it will. I am super thankful for this forum and I guess I’m also looking for some advice as well. The thought comes up that maybe I could be doing something better. But maybe that’s just doubt. I guess that’s actually clear because all I can be is myself in each moment. I guess I just need to keep doing what I’m doing and it will work eventually. Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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