Cupcake Posted February 11 Share Posted February 11 (edited) This journal will specifically deal with borderline personality disorder and treatment modality. Edited February 12 by Cupcake Quote Mention Married to this forum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cupcake Posted February 11 Author Share Posted February 11 I suffer BPD since childhood and its only in April 2022 that I was diagnosed with BPD and autism and since then I have been working on to resolve this. Quote Mention Married to this forum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cupcake Posted February 11 Author Share Posted February 11 (edited) The root cause of BPD is fear of abandonment. They will literally do anything to not be abandoned. This is the reason a lot of borderlines are heavily exploited because people sense this neediness in them and take advantage of it. Borderlines are generally emotionally blackmailed in relationships. Borderlines can also resort to emotional blackmail themselves, however this behavior is a potent sign that they need urgent help because borderlines emotionally manipulating or blackmailing a person is a huge sign that they are not feeling safe in a relationship, that's why resorting to desperate measures, not to control the other person, but to desperately seek their protection or acceptance. Such people are toxic to a borderline and instead of resorting to desperate behaviors like lying, cheating, stealing, etc it's best to leave people who don't believe you because such people only serve to dampen your self esteem by first triggering your "threat" response and then calling you a "drama queen" when you are acting desperate and later punishing you thus criminalizing your behavior instead of understanding it. It only serves the purpose of setting you back and making you feel more desperate, vulnerable, frightened, controlled and self destructive. This is a harmful state, not a happy state. You're always made to feel awful about yourself at the expense of your self esteem so that others can feel better about themselves. You are always made to look like the bad guy but it's they who are bullying you and this type of abuse is called reactive abuse that most borderlines are often subjected to. This keeps the borderline in a constant state of panic, stress and confusion. Common phrases that borderlines often get to hear from other people include - Phrases that a borderline will hear from other people- I never said that Stop being so sensitive You're a drama queen You're paranoid I never did anything to you It was just a joke You're acting entitled You're being a victim. Edited February 11 by Cupcake Quote Mention Married to this forum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cupcake Posted February 11 Author Share Posted February 11 I love this guy's videos. His actual name is Eric and he is from Actualized org. Quote Mention Married to this forum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cupcake Posted March 10 Author Share Posted March 10 Narcissists operate on a few things - ego - pride - jealousy - greed - fear Quote Mention Married to this forum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cupcake Posted March 10 Author Share Posted March 10 Cupcake's job - Compile a list of gaslighting phrases Quote Mention Married to this forum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cupcake Posted March 10 Author Share Posted March 10 (edited) Narcissists might feel slight guilt or remorse when you completely break off with them and leave them. They can't stand the loss of a person, not because they loved that person but because they viewed that person as a commodity and now that commodity is lost, most likely forever. They certainly regret the loss of this community. Edited March 10 by Cupcake Quote Mention Married to this forum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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