Winter
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6 hours ago, Loop said:
There is no one guiding anyone, just Emotional Guidance.
There are no ‘parts’ or things to accept, that is the veil of thought.
I love being in accordance with discordance! Then it flips around into the Dance, into what I actually want! Listen to Feeling my friend. Discordance continues when you repress and ignore it, this is precisely how trauma & shadow is allowed to continue.
Then be in accordance with my discordance 😁
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10 hours ago, Mandy said:
@Winter So in the case of a woman leaving a relationship with a verbally abusive man, you would expect that she shouldn't have anything to say or discuss after the fact? That's just that?
No I'm not saying that. I'm just saying she shouldn't go back to her ex's Instagram every weekend just to convince herself of how bad of a person her ex was. If you don't like someone don't give them free rent in your mind. To accept the abusive person's flaws is the same as letting him go
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Just now, Alexander said:
What is it then?I find these debates devoid from any practical value.
Whatever rocks your boat man but I find Rupert Spira boring af ,just one example out of many.
> Debates about non duality are useless
> Starts one😂👌
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15 hours ago, Loop said:
This thread is Love & Healing. This place is already about love.
Perhaps you should look at the feelings of sadness? Shed a tear for Love?
Healing isn’t even an improvement, it is just noticing already Alignment, when you look at something you don’t like it can better help you understand what you do.
Feel the ripples in between the two. Emotional Guidance.
Leo is love too 🙂
His character, his flaws, the limits of his guidance. Stuff to be accepted. This thread is nothing but discordance with Leo which is just a part of yourself. You can be in accordance with this discordance if you want, up to you. -
7 minutes ago, Blessed2 said:
Who gives a shit?
Whoever keeps browsing actualized.org just to inject themselves with negativity and judgment.
I'm not saying this to dunk on you, but get over your ex. This is thread is terribly sad to look at. I hope this community can be about improvement, happiness and love, not about being better than it's predecessor.
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3 hours ago, Blessed2 said:
Lately I've been exploring weed.
Uh-oh 😂😂
The green goddess gets a hold on blah-blah addiction like no-one else.
I got stoned for year and a half straight, every day... Each time it seemed like I had the most earth-shaking insights... And I came back for it again and again.
😂 Oh my god he's so bad. Imagine sucking that much as a human being. Weed? Pfft. So low level. 😏
Thank god we're not him. We're so much better than him. 😂😅🙄😟 -
@Phil I still think you saying Jesus was funny implied Jesus knew about the limits of his guidance.
😇😝😘
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7 minutes ago, Phil said:
That can only really be answered by self inquiry.
I think the answer's pretty clear already 😂
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Just now, Phil said:
Who’s another belief.
Isn't the concept of "Who" the same as the concept of "Belief"? What's a belief without a believer and who is one without a belief.
Belief's another Who.
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1 hour ago, Phil said:
Or maybe the thought that there is a thing is believed.
Believed by who?
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18 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:
The way to defeat shame is to reveal whatever it is you're ashamed of to others. If you have something shameful you want to stop hiding it. It's hard to do at first, but you'll get better at it! Whatever it is that you're ashamed of, bring it out into the open and practice being ok with that. Notice other people seeing it and not reacting the way you presumed.
What if other people don't want to see my dick???
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10 minutes ago, Phil said:
“If you label something then that thing is labelled”.
If the statement above implies existence then I must believe in the existence blue unicorns because I brought it up once in a conversation. You could replace "labelled" by "mentioned" or "said". The fact something has been labelled implies nothing about about it beside the fact it was previously brought up, labelled, defined or mentioned.
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12 hours ago, WhiteOwl said:
I just had a nights out with some friends at a party, and i feel a lot of shame about a lot of things looking back at the night. In every situation i feel ashamed by either having been too much, too little, too insecure.
Good! When you make a mistake, you brain brings back the memory of it so you can remember it more effectively. This is part of learning, the more cringe moments pop up the more you are growing socially.
I myself this semester joined an Improv group. I can tell you every week I had all the cringiest moments poping back up in my head from my last Improv session. It's normal, the brain wants to be a social expert. We all want to be popular and show 0 insecurity. So anytime we do things we consider mistakes our brain learn to not reproduce that behavior.
There is nothing you need to do about it and there is nothing you can do to stop your brain from learning from its mistakes. There is nothing to be released, there is no "shame stuck in you". Those mistakes do not have to be painful, you can just laugh at them.
There was that time where I was doing Improv and we had a scene about a fucked up priest (me) and a very loyal religious follower. In the scene I was teaching her how to pray and I said "No the right way to pray is to stick your elbows together." I felt so DUMB and CRINGE for forcing her to squish her boobs in front of everyone. What kind of perverted person would force someone to do that on scene? It was very poor taste and unfunny at the time. Felt bad about it for weeks but over time I just accepted this happened I guess 😂
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22 hours ago, Kevin said:
But why can’t I just let it go. None of that negativity is happening now. I feel so guilty and ashamed that I can’t just drop it and forgive them.
Imagine someone else had this problem and you wanted to force them to forgive their parents. You start telling them "You really suck for not forgiving your parents. Only mediocre people hold grudges, you should really be ashamed of yourself." Is there any good outcome that can come out of this shaming and bullying? If you "forgive" because someone shamed you for "not forgiving" is this really forgiveness or coercion?
But this is essentially what you are doing to yourself. Shaming yourself for having emotions, for not being this expected version of yourself. If you want true forgiveness then you want to give yourself the actual freedom to forgive or not and this means being open to the possibility that you don't want to forgive. You have the right to not forgive them, this is your life and you can live it in whichever way you want.
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24 minutes ago, Phil said:
How’s that relate?
If you label something then that thing is labelled.
Or maybe the thought that there is a thing is believed.
In which way does defining something implies that the existence of the thing is believed? Definitions are made for the sake of conversation, I need to assume the meaning of words you use in order to have a conversation with you. Of course it doesn't imply that those definitions exist or are believed or any other duality. The statement I was making in sentence you quoted is the assertion that X = X, where X can be any concept you are referring to. Saying that X is not equal to X, or that Jesus is not Jesus or that Blue unicorn is not Blue unicorn, is non sense as far as english goes.
33 minutes ago, Phil said:A concept is a self?
A separate thing?
There is no such thing as "a self", self is simply a reference to the subject in a sentence. "A camera can see itself with a mirror." It is used to imply identity or sameness. When I used "itself" in this sentence I meant "the same concept", but this doesn't define any property to the concept, including separateness. Whether you want to conceptualize concepts as separated is up to you.
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15 hours ago, Phil said:
Or maybe the thought that there is a thing is believed.
If I say "blue unicorn" do you know believe that there is a blue unicorn?
Introducing a concept doesn't imply anything about that concept, whether it exists or not whether its real or not. But it implies that this concept is itself, as a concept. The blue unicorn is the blue unicorn no matter what the blue unicorn actually is or whether it is.
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1 minute ago, James123 said:
There is no issue. If you need help, I am here to help. It can be helped with LOVE.
🙂 Much love
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Just now, James123 said:
Yo, not blaming you, I am whom doesn't exist just trying to help you whom doesn't exist 😂😂😂🤭🤭🤭
Yeah no worries I see that. But this is deeply concerning, what is this issue I have that I require help with? How can Consciousness, Nothingness, The Universe or Oneness be helped?
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Just now, James123 said:
I can't, you can't. 😂😂😂 You are missing, because you consider yourself as real. When there is no you no more missing. ❤️❤️❤️❤️😍😍😍😂😂😂🙏🙏🙏
Oh god, now I'm considering myself as real. What another problem. Does it ever end? I wish I could stop considering there is an issue with me... Doesn't seem to be a productive consideration. 🙂
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Just now, James123 said:
Lol. You are missing the keyyy. I, you is the biggest illusion. Thinker or knower there is no suchhhhh, nor you are in universe. Where is the world when you sleep ?😍😍😍😂😂😂
I'm missing so much! Oh gosh I wish I could stop "missing" somehow. If only I could realize that the part I'm missing doesn't actually exist, that I'm not missing anything. Please enlighten me 😂
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Just now, Phil said:
😂 As if.
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12 minutes ago, Phil said:
That’s how. 🍻
Well I can't force you to share it if you don't want to 🙂
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12 minutes ago, James123 said:
The point that you missing is there is no such a thing as reality or keep changing. It is just attachment with so called thoughts. If you do not attach with it nothing never happens, even birth or death😀😀😀
Just like I am a thought to you too. Why try to change what I think? I am just a piece of your imagination you imagine as "misunderstanding" you are trying to "fix" by moving your fingers funny on some keyboard.
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14 minutes ago, Phil said:
Not Phil’s wife the female; Phil, female all along, in spite of assumptions.
"When you make the two into one, and when you make the inner like the outer and the outer like the inner, and the upper like the lower, and when you make male and female into a single one, then you will enter.”
- Jesus
Yeah and maybe the chair you are sitting on was actually made of chocolate all along. This is just an attempt to illustrate what a duality is.
14 minutes ago, Phil said:For sure. Jesus’s so funny! Arguably the funniest of all time.
If we just go back in time to the moment when you wrote this. Why is Jesus funny in this context? (Remember you were quoting me when saying this)
Actualized.org was SO discordant
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Going to get new fresh material to hate on is not the same as going back in time and making a retrospective on traumatic events for the sake the healing. Entertaining this relation of hate toward someone and constantly judging them on what they do is the opposite of healing.
I'm not Leo, I don't have personal interest in you accepting Leo's flaws. And by accepting I don't mean "tolerate in your life". All I'm saying is hating on him is counter productive for you, its keeping him alive in your mind.
It's nice pointing out whichever duality which makes your side of the debate look better. What if there is no victim and abuser?