[Single, in my late twenties and frustrated. How to cope?]

@ReenaI never said anything about liking you or not liking you. As it stands right now, we are neutral😀

 

13 hours ago, Reena said:

And no. I wasn't picky. I'm the most liberal person you'll ever come across. 

Well, let's put this to the test, and date me then. Then we'll see how much you uphold this ideal

[About aging]

From my point of view as a man, the best kind of life is when you have the freedom, energy and health to do whatever you want and can obtain whatever you desire (I mean trully, authentically want and desire), especially the freedom part though. That's what made childhood so special, cause everything was seemingly so new and unexplored. As a child you imagine your future life to be something special, then ussually what happens is that the enviroment, society, parents, classmates, friends etc. beats it out of you and indoctrinates you with their view of the world, which tends to be more pesimistic and may or may not be correct at times.

 

You can definitely push your life into that direction, which makes you feel similiarly to your childhood period or even better. But you won't get there smoking cigarettes nor you'll get there by thinking inside the box and going sheepishly along with society, you also won't get there without effort or strategic planning, or luck. And many other things.

[Is it my anxious attachment or is it him]

Don't try to punish him for your unrealistic expectations. You want a relatively high earning/high status man who's also eager to respond to you anytime you want and be available to you? You can only pick one of those. Otherwise you should just go get yourself some regular chump who'll never pay for your dinner date (since that's what you supposedly value).

 

Being a surgeon is not a joke, it's extremely stressfull, especially when there's someone else's life on the line. There's also no shortage of work I can imagine. Hospital workers are those type of people that are better off dating their coworkers, in my opinion.

[Single, in my late twenties and frustrated. How to cope?]

2 hours ago, Jonas Long said:

You did ask.  And a lot of his advice checks out.  Take it with a grain of salt. 

The first one I guess, should be taken with a grain of salt by anyone else reading that comment - as there do, in fact, exist a lot of very good and efficient ways to use the internet. That exception doesn't apply to her though - I stand by what I said.

[Single, in my late twenties and frustrated. How to cope?]

@Reena Also, as a fifth and final point, which I've almost forgotten about; it's always usefull to remember that, at the end of the day, we choose to live the lives we are living. Life puts various challenges and obstacles ahead of us, but it's up to us to mold our life into what we want. Victim mentality is harmfull and destructive

 

That is all. You've been advised. You can lie to yourself and others, cope however you want, but you know deep down the solutions are rather simple, you just want to stay the same and not change. That's fine. I'm not the one living your life.

[Single, in my late twenties and frustrated. How to cope?]

Believe it or not, the solution is out there and within your grasp, it's pretty simple actually, but you probably won't do it because it'll be too painfull for you. The solution is literaly to get a life. Here are 4 basic things you need to do in order to do that (but not limited to those 4) 

 

- Get rid of all the forum accounts, in fact, eliminate all online activity in general except the absolute neccesities. No more videos, no more bullshit, no more online copes. You are using these as a cope for your loneliness, your mental illness and probably your past traumas. You need to get comfortable with being lonely and not stimulated

 

- You need to get some form of job - try part time if you're attending uni, or any form really

 

- You need to focus on getting therapy and psychiatric help, I know you've tried these before but you need to start vising them on the regular basis, even if you personally think these people do not help you or do not understand you, they in fact would help you and do understand you

 

- Slowly start building your social life, being around people. And I mean real people, not the bullshit online people or imaginary people. Get some real hobbies outside the internet, ideally outside of your house. Get some real relationship experience with real men, and don't be too picky

 

These are some real things that would actually help you. Whether you'll do them is questionable at this point though

[Enlightenment Genetics]

3 minutes ago, DMT Elf said:

You don't want to play this game with me. I've already proven that I have the sickest comebacks. And you're clearly not even in the same league.

Is your power over 9000?

[Enlightenment Genetics]

On 4/21/2023 at 9:40 PM, DMT Elf said:

I don’t care.

You're such a bad boy. I would totally care if I was you.

[Enlightenment Genetics]

10 hours ago, DMT Elf said:

Currently I'm a teacher. Although I did work 4 weeks at UPS a few months ago when I became desperate. I can't say it was fun, but I'm glad I did it. It gave me great insight into the dark side of American capitalism. It's common to hear about all the poor working conditions, union busting, and wage theft that goes on, but experiencing it first hand is something else entirely. I would never mock blue collar workers.

My last job was as a mechanic at a high end bike shop. That's where I met my extremely hot professional mountain biker ex girlfriend. I worked there through most of college where I earned a math degree. I also dropped out of a mechanical engineering program because I thought I was too smart for it. I somewhat regret that decision. I'm also thinking about grad school in the near future.

Other things I've done: I built my own motorcycle from scrap parts and completely self taught mechanical know-how when I was 19. I don't live with my parents. In fact, we don't even live in the same state. And I don't live in a basement either.

Can't tell what's true or false with you

[Why men who had many sexual partners are unattractive for long term relationship]

1 hour ago, Rose said:

Being able to play on women’s emotions short term after meeting her and before she really knows them is different than being able to build a relationship with them.

 

No doubt they learned a few tricks to make unexperienced women (who don’t know these tricks) to sleep with them. 
 

That is what I mean, in experienced women’s eyes, they are either ONLY good for short term fun or not good at all. 

And of course, the only way to justify the above mentioned statement in the title, is to assume the position of superiority over these women. While labeling them with some inferior quality, such as, in this case, them being inexperienced. Which is just a nicer way of calling them low quality, pretty much.

 

People are simply very different, and reality tends to often be too complicated for us to just claim how things are supposed to be.

 

People are born with different needs, different temperaments, different sex drives, different personalities. I could go on and on. Not everything is so simple.

[Why men who had many sexual partners are unattractive for long term relationship]

For them to be able to rotate partners, there has to exist a huge population pool of women attracted to the traits these dudes use to sleep with these same women.

 

So that statement in the title is actually false. They are maybe unattractive to YOU, they are maybe unatractive to your friends. Those could be valid, truthfull statements

[Actualized.org and Leo Gura must be stopped]

1 hour ago, Phil said:

@Reborn

Yep. 

Ironically, in that explaination he reveals he doesn’t actually understand infinity. 

 

If there's a field of consciousness floating in infinite nothingness, am I the nothingness or am I the field of consciousness, or am I both?

 

My field of perception sure as hell doesn't feel infinite.

[Actualized.org and Leo Gura must be stopped]

What do yall think of this? Has anyone experienced this in their direct experience?

 

Got this from Leo's blog. Here's what he has to say:

 

"That's sort of what Awakening can feel like. It can fee like you take a few steps back from your entire field of perception and see it from a meta, nowhere perspective. The bubble itself is floating in nothingness. This is what makes it feel solipsistic. Reality IS this bubble of Consciousness. That's what the "universe" is.

 

You are not a human or a biological organism. You are this bubble of Consciousness. This bubble does not exist within time nor space. It does not exist on planet Earth. It is not inside of anything. It is not subordinate to anything. It is not made of atoms or anything. It is not happening in a brain. It has no age. It has no mechanical causes. It is not governed by any physical laws. It has no parents. It isn't born and it doesn't die. It has no beginning nor end. This bubble does not exist within a universe, the universe exists within the bubble. And there is only this one bubble.

 

That is the ultimate nature of reality. It's pretty fucking weird. It doesn't make human sense. It is absolutely magic. It is God.

 

Very Important: Please keep in mind that this is just one way to experience Awakening. There are many other very radically different ways. Do not take this too literally!"

 

[Anger Towards Women]

5 hours ago, ConsciousDreamer666 said:

I am not sure, probably trauma that gets very deep in the first years of teen, adolescence, etc. But my main theory is that for some karmic reason I just vibrate deeply in shame-guilt with certain karmic bondages and anger releases that so it's a step forward. 

 

Careful with assuming what @Orb needs. I could be wrong, but judging by his posts, it seems to me a clear case of someone stucked in shame vibration and that's a very fucked up place to be and he needs to get as fast as he can from that place. The last thing he needs is a feminine approach (which is usually at higher vibrations) to climb those first steps of the scale. 

 

 

Anger vibrates at 150. More than even Desire and Grief! Notice how wrong you were thinking Anger its bad or useless.

 

If I'm right and he is vibrating at 20-30-50, he needs a masculine-energy based approach to scale that (Anger). You thinking giving him +250 energy perspective its helping him, but its not realistic. His energetic aura and karma will not respond to it. He rationally might think you are right or understand you but it will do nothing for breaking his karma. 

 

He needs what he needs right now. Not the hunky dory fantasy approach. The approach that actually saves your fucking life. I also would love that Life would just be 'be all Loving and solve all your traumas right now', but life doesn't work life that. Don't think life is so simple. 

 

In spite of negative reactions targeted towards you, I think there is some truth to what you're saying.

 

The absolutely most important thing however, is to start taking tangible concrete action to get himself out of this situation snd stop being stuck in conceptual world of thoughts. Most of us could do that, to be honest, it definitely wouldn't hurt.

 

Just embrace your sucky reality, and start taking action.

 

I think this is what vast majority of people have to do anyway on a daily basis, cause their lives suck. Most people's life suck

[Anger Towards Women]

7 hours ago, Orb said:

Nah I'm good lol.

As expected.

 

The problem was never lack of sex

[Anger Towards Women]

Get a hooker. Maybe that'll quell the thirst for a while

[Lost Faith in Humanity]

9 hours ago, Orb said:

@Reborn I agree, but what about things out of your control. Like a missile can hit your town. Or soldiers can take over your neighborhood, regardless of how you view reality. But maybe youll be in a favorable position due to your positive outlook who knows.

Yeah, basically. The way you'd view those unfavourable realities, would determine the way you cope with them.

 

How do you think soldiers on the frontline of Ukraine are surviving every day. They had to develop optimistic view of reality, they were forced to

[Actualized.org and Leo Gura must be stopped]

The ass licking is just incredible LOL

 

"Oh poor Leo, he's got it so hard in life"

[Lost Faith in Humanity]

You can always choose to see the glass half empty, or half full. It's up to you.

[Actualized.org and Leo Gura must be stopped]

13 minutes ago, Serenity said:

I had already seen that post before. There are no information about how/why she died and what type of neglect he feels guilty about.

 

I read his post as him feeling sorry not for having loved her enough while she was alive.

Then I'm completely and utterly wrong, of course, and I apologize. Still, my previous points still stand

[Actualized.org and Leo Gura must be stopped]

10 minutes ago, Serenity said:

huh?

 

I never heard that story. I knew he lost a very beloved siamese cat but I thought she died out of old age.

Check his Instagram. To be fair to him, I have no idea HOW the cat die, but all I can tell from his post, it was his fault. And he literaly admitted that. It was a picture of his cat, and him saying that he's terribly sorry that he let her die. Just sayin'. It's pretty sus

[Actualized.org and Leo Gura must be stopped]

37 minutes ago, Cupcake said:

Not wanting to indulge his personal side, but I had once come across his ex girlfriend online and she said that he was emotionally abusive to her. Not surprising at all. 

For real? If that's true, then that even further solidifies why noone should listen to him when it comes to relationships. Picking up women and hooking up with them =/= long term relationship skills. Not even in the slightest.

 

To be honest, a lot of thing are starting to come together and click for me, and it's getting more and more obvious to me that he's just an deeply introverted narcisist. That's all he is. Another sign, for example, is him saying that he used to be a "typical nice guy". And that women don't "reward" nice guys. Here I want to pinpoint his usage of words, not necessarilly whether that statement is true/false. Of course, there is SOME truth to it, as is to almost everything. But I have never ever used the words "reward", and I have never labeled myself a "nice guy". I think this is a sign of narcisism.

 

Another telltale sign that just came to my mind, is his claim that he had to retrain his mind in order to not brag and boast about himself and his money. And that he spent "100s of hours" doing it. He said that in one of his videos, you can find the clip somewhere on Youtube. Anyway, normal person doesn't need "100s of hours" to not brag and boast as an attraction strategy. You simply stop fucking doing it. Or you never do it at all, because you're normal, and you're not a narcisist. My brother used to do this exact same thing btw - probably to a more limited extent - and, low and behold, he was at one point diagnosed with some light version of narcisism. Which fits him well to this day.

 

39 minutes ago, Cupcake said:

If that's how he is in the forum where he doesn't need to be too careful, imagine how he would be around some random dude in his house. 

His attitude towards others is clearly visible in his radical awakening video, when the Amazon delivery guy payed his Excellence a visit. He went from laughing and joy to cold immidiately, and the back to laughing and joy.

 

56 minutes ago, Cupcake said:

The best that he should do is stay away from public interactions (because he becomes a pain in the ass for most people to deal with), and probably write his insights in solitude and write a book. The way ancient people used to do in 12th century. They wouldn't interact much but still release their wisdom in book form. 

Honestly, you just hit the nail on the head. That's exactly what he should have done. Problem is, he's too narcisistic and ambitious to do that (the latter one he openly admitted in his last video. The former one we can tell from his behaviour).

 

But yes, that's exactly what he should have done. I think all medieval/ancient intelectuals were narcisistic. How could they have done what they did otherwise. You need to have a certain distain for others, and go your own way so to speak

 

Not to say that his work should be compared to those intelectuals, I think they far surpass him in any metric. Just for the simple fact that he did not discover anything new. He only thinks he has, but his ideas were around for thousands of years. He's just a collector and a good speaker, presents them and puts them into a nice little boxes called Youtube videos.

 

57 minutes ago, Cupcake said:

Also don't forget how Leo used a gun in one of his pictures. 

He let his cat die. Another thing to keep in mind

 

How can you just let your pet die. Like, let it starve to death. I don't get it

[Actualized.org and Leo Gura must be stopped]

32 minutes ago, Cupcake said:

If you try to corrupt my teachings I will fucking kill you

And how exactly is he planning on doing that? Once again, his delusions are making themselves present for the world to see. Like, this threat doesn't even make sense. What is he going to do, flap around with his skinny arms? Kill with his keyboard?

 

Man, he's such a mixed bag this guy. If you just watched his videos, you wouldn't think anything negative of him. His recent video on happiness for example, I quite liked. So much so in fact, that I'm going to rewatch it once I have the time and focus. I also don't necessarilly dislike the guy, in spite of my previous criticisms. I guess everyone has to have their faults, at the end of the day. Noone is a saint

 

[Actualized.org and Leo Gura must be stopped]

3 hours ago, Joseph Maynor said:

Moderation sounds good in theory, but the problem is the addict cons himself that he or she is acting in moderation when it’s far from it. Sometimes moderation just isn’t feasible for an addict.  Find your addicted area or thing and then ask what would moderation even be for this?  And then measure your own actions against that and keep a log or journal as proof.  Most people have at least 1 major addiction I imagine.  It’s worth it to do addiction cessation work and start with like a 60 day challenge on something.  E.g. work on physical health seriously for 60 days — which might include no alcohol or bad food and daily  exercise even if it’s just going on long walks.

Not to mention, you can't use substances such as heroin moderately at all. There are things everyone should definitely stay away from, and then there are things majority of people can technically use moderately and in a healthy fashion - but in reality, a lot of people can't, as you rightly pointed out, and therefore should stay away from these things. Things such as porn, weed, video games, etc.

 

People always like to spout these platitudes in the self improvement space, such as "you should always abstain from this and this!!" Or "Moderation is king, you should do everything in moderation!!" when reality is much more complicated than that.

[Actualized.org and Leo Gura must be stopped]

15 hours ago, Cupcake said:

If US regulations and laws were laxed and removed, Leo would be worse than Andrew Tate,mark my words. Leo wears a thick mask on his face. He hides the other side of him.. 

I was actually thinking the same exact line of thought once. That Leo is actually comparatively much more dangerous than Andrew Tate. For someone looking at both of them on the mere surface level, they'd probably say me and you are stupid for saying that. First impression of Tate is very evidently bad, while the first impression (and maybe even second and third one) of Leo is seemingly very good and positive. You'd have to really delve into the depths of the catalog of Leo's videos and his teachings, and carefully observe their effects on you and on others, as well as observe Leo's bevaviour over the long time horizon, to really start to realize the dangers of Leo.

 

As far as I can tell, there's certainly no reason to think Leo is LESS dangerous. Tate's philosophy, althought inherently toxic and preying on vulnerable people, never made anyone actually kill themselves. ""Leo's work"" (a lot of quotes needed there, cause let's be honest, it's not really his own work, he is just a mere collector of ideas someone else has came up with) made completely healthy young people with a lot of friends, great families and a lot of future potential, kill themselves. These were good people, who could have lived a long happy life