Finitude
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Question:
How do we set boundaries in relationship?
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On 11/17/2022 at 8:08 AM, Phil said:
willingness to own & understand the emotions experienced vs defending & projecting.
@Phil can you expand on this?
Thank you.
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@Gianna Hi!
The loss of fear comes with the understanding you're just looking at yourSelf.
Everywhere you look you find more of yourSelf.
It's just ... so endlessly amazing and wonderful.
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Hello!
I have a situation at work with a woman and I'd like to get some different perspectives before I proceed.
Ok. This woman, 35, sent her friend to ask me if I was single a few weeks ago. I replied that she ask me herself, and the following week, she did. Since, there's been light flirting from her though I've only responded with subtle indifference.
Today she became very vocal about her attraction toward me, making fun, flirty, comments in front of co-workers, and she even lingered behind in an obvious way, this too, in front of co-workers, when the day ended, to speak with me privately. She made comments about my physical appearance, signaling her interest again, and I learned she has five kids (I have zero).
Now, on my behalf I've been hesitant from the start. I can tell she's had a rough life because that hardship is communicated through the shape and contours of her face. One can perceive such a history in it, but also an innocence, someone who wants love and companionship, and so in it also I understand her in her worth as an aspect of the creator in manifestation.
I'd describe her as deeply unconscious in that she is identified wholly with a separate-self. She's very focused on the physical, which I assume is her only frame of reference when dealing with men to whom she's attracted. There's and adolescent quality in her presentation.
So, I'm not romantically interested in this woman, but I don't want end our communication and make her feel rejected.
Next time I see her I want to make clear, absolutely so, in the kindest way possible, that I'm not interested in a romantic entanglement, but that I'm open to friendship, to getting to know her as a person with no expectation of anything more.
For very different reasons I believe we both can learn and grow and know ourselves in new ways through friendship with one another, if she's open to that possibility.
If anyone would like to share their thoughts on this matter it'd be much appreciated.
Thank you.
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"Nota bene"
Latin. "Note Well".
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Absolute: Unconditional, communion with all apparent things animate and inanimate.
Relative: Conditional, apportioned based on familiarity, relatedness.
Where's the ignorance?
NB: The duality is understood.
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Emotions associated with thoughts of mediation are becoming more and more pleasurable. Over the last 13 years there's been maybe an hour invested in the practice, most of which, not all, were battles with monkey mind. So the practice thus far, from a relative perspective, hasn't been a complete failure, just a comprehensive one.
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On 9/13/2022 at 6:00 AM, LfcCharlie4 said:
Jim Newman
This character finds great joy in confounding other characters.
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On 9/13/2022 at 6:12 AM, Mandy said:
Neo advaita does not exist. It's really not at all a thing that can be dismissed, demonized, suspected, etc.
This negation of the negation is actually really funny.
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The ego was seen for what it is: an energetic contraction encompassing the totality of the ""Finitude"" character. This ego in experience became seemingly isolated and identified as the self-contraction, with apparent existence and survival prerogatives of its own; the first emotional reaction was fear before dispelling it, which, in hindsight, was egoic squid ink attempting to cloud clarity.
Disbelief then arose at what had been seen.
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The fear associated with eye contact generally and prolonged eye contact specifically has significantly eroded.
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Yes. Concepts. All examples.
Theirin lies the seeming "rub". Not two is the condition of all apparent condition(s), and yet ... even the realization that none of these things are actually possible, seeming conditions exists everywhere. So there must be consent to conditional (conceptual) existence, or, perhaps, the apparent birth is the prima facie consent, and thus these things can be engaged with kind of humorous detachment (In the world but not of it).
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From the vantage point of duality its in that apparent-ness of separation (which is actually funny), "through" which, from the vantage point of knowing, that apparent paradox dissolves into what is already, already the case, revealing there never was a paradox in any case whatsoever!
It's all just so freaking profound.
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Yes.
In this experience it represents the apparent oscillation between stabilization and the pull of mind back into ignorance.
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Now that God is seen in everything and everyone, the creation of art, it seems, can be best described as an act of communion with THAT (the duality is seen); to put a finer point on it, creating is THAT, and cannot not be THAT.
The painter, the act of painting, and the resulting painted canvass all exist as verbs, and can only be verbs as there is only ever the paint-ING, in all cases.
The paradox of realization: duality dissolves but still exists (apparently).
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A coworker was visibly suffering.
I asked what's the matter and she said she'd been experiencing panic attacks all morning. After listing, I told her she can get some distance between herself and the anxiety by noticing the anxiety is appearing in her consciousness, but it's not actually her, that she can do an investigation into her own experience and find relief by untangling the anxiety from herself.
This absolutely did not help and destabilized her sending her further into a panic, heavy breathing, etc. ...
The lesson: DO NOT share these things casually, even in situations like this where help is the intent.
I could have just listened to her and told her if she needs someone to talk to I'll listen, which, would be sharing my being and loving this human in silence, rather that attempting to help her dismantle the root system of her anxiety.
I felt so horrible. Total discord.
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Can't even kill insects... Can't endorse ending the life of a fetus.
That said, perhaps an aborted fetus needed only that experience to transcend to whatever's next, so humility is present in that it is known the larger design is perfect and unfolds perfectly with or without attachments to positionalities.
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The seamless has to be retraced as this experience is not stabilized. (*seemingly)
It is a sense of cohesiveness that reveals itself after a mentation that de-conceptualizes experience.
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They assume a "whom" to which they refer and thus create a seeming separation.
Toxic Positivity
in Friendship, Dating, Relationships, Family, Parenting & Sexuality
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@Loop
I think you summed it up nicely. Thank you.