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Deconstructing Unrealistic Beliefs


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That you need to be super rich and powerful

 

What does that even come with? Just the looking down on others, it's obviously completely relative. Really no more security, in a way less; you're now afraid to lose wealth and power.Bezos, Putin, Trump, Hitler, Nero, Alexander, Atilla, Xerxes, Napoleon; can't rule the world as they want.

 

And why would you want to rule the world? That's a lot of work and worry. Why not just appreciate it and ride the waves, which is already at your fingertips

 

 

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That you need the perfect wife; unrealistically intelligent, elegant, and brave.

 

Why do you need that? Why even want that?

Again just appreciate real life, life as it is. The other doesn't exist, I would consider the most intelligent people in the world stupid, .... Same with elegance and bravery.

 

So either be okay with what's out there or leave it all alone.

 

What's out there, what would life look like?

Boring, frustrating.

 

Would it really be boring?

Yes, but that's not necessarily a bad thing, and doesn't mean your life as a whole would be boring, I guarantee you won't be bored, you'll figure out a way for it to be great. There's serious meditation and appreciation which is available in any situation.

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That you need wicked awesome friends

 

They don't exist, you don't need them, you will miss out on who's available if you follow this unrealistic belief and hold out for someone even more badass than jesus, wow, where did I pick this crap up from? Movies and bullshitters I think.

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Important point in the last post. Bullshitters, how to not take in what others put out? How to be with these people and quit becoming them in that way taking on these bullshit beliefs.

 

Why be with them? What else are you going to do?

 

Why do I want to be with them?

Bullshit beliefs I picked up 😆

 

Why be with them?

For enjoyment, but you can't enjoy them with these bullshit beliefs. Can you enjoy them? Have you ever enjoyed them? Yes, when I was a child or when I spend time with my girlfriend, or volunteering, or seeing others at parks.

 

What's the difference in the situations when enjoying and not enjoying them?

If something needs to be done.

 

That ties in with the bullshit needs

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So just quit thinking you need something and stay focussed on appreciating what is. All of those desires are bullshit and this is proof, I would have had desires in those moments if I chose to think about it, instead I just took what was there, thinking of nothing else, nothing else existed, nothing else exists outside of it, except misery.

 

You need nothing, no specifics, what's in front of you is all you need, whatever it is. Specifics don't matter, they're what kill you.

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Yes but your focus must be on the drive not the destination. Stop and look at the map and travel guides, enjoy that part too, drive toward the life you want, but know that's not where happiness is, it's just where you're supposedly driving toward.

 

That's where you lose control, you can't drive and navigate at the same time. Pull off and stop if you feel lost.

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So what do I want?

Head somewhere that I think I can make it to, I don't want to drive forever. Be realistic.

 

Then enjoy the ride, wherever you wind up however it turns out. The direction is relatively not very important compared to your focus being on the experience

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What about the beliefs around having children?

 

"Being a great parent would be something worthwhile to do"

Why?

 

"You can help them onto a good life"

 

"It would be beautiful"

Yes it would

 

So work it backwards, is there a wife I could find that wouldn't be too bad?

Yes, I think I just have things to work on personally and things to do before all that "responsibility" and be tied to the commitment.

 

What do I need to do.

The up some lose ends, meditate and think about all I think I would be giving up, so as to deconstruct that bullshit, I want to turn right at this stop sign fuck left.

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What will I be giving up

 

Personal growth

     No, I'll still have some ability, just less

 

Freedom

      Freedom is doing what you want and this is it, I don't care about the other stuff

 

Other life choices

        The choice, I feel good about, peaceful, my only problem is feeling I give up other choices, but in doing that I give up the choice I want.

This is the hard one, but diving in is exhilarating and refreshing, it will be great.

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So the wife, what's the realistic expectation? What I already have? What's unacceptable? 

 

Generally nice, smart, compassionate, feminine, brave

 

She's all these things right? Yes, I love her

 

What are the concerns? Bullshit? Feminine, responsibility, compassion, all within upper realistic levels

 

She loves me

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People are so damn stupid, there's no way people are smarter than monkeys, NO WAY!!!!

 

I cannot stand morons and it's like 99% of the population, what the hell.

 

Screw society, I'm out. People are not fun, they're boring and mindless, it's not solipsism, they're mindless zombies, it's not that I think they're me, they're completely predictable, boring, mindless, cowards. Im about to put Armageddon on my damn dreamboard

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