It’s much easier to be there for someone in their bad times than in their good times

[Rose]

It seems to be that it’s much easier to be there for someone during the hard times in their life than during the good times 

 

When someone struggles and we help them, the ego gets a kick “I am doing better than this other person”. It also gets to temporarily feel domination towards the other person.

 

When someone is celebrating though - a wedding, a new business - especially if it’s someone “on a similar level” - the ego starts comparing itself to the other person and feels the “lack.” Unless it feels it somehow contributed to this “success.”

Edited August 3 by Rose

[Reena]

Would you agree that most people are envious when someone is having a good time? 

What has your general experience about this been like? 

[Rose]

Just now, Reena said:

Would you agree that most people are envious when someone is having a good time? 

What has your general experience about this been like? 

I don’t know about other people, but I know I’ve definitely been. 
 

Recently I’ve been able to feel good around some good things happening to other people, but it’s usually when it’s the kind of things I want for myself - someone following their passion and quitting their office job 

 

Weirdly when my friend said he was passionate about his new office job because he likes “feeling needed” and “feeling important” - I wasn’t happy for him 

 

I think this is also what Mandy meant here:

[Mandy]

Jealousy is SO valuable though, it burns to put it mildly, but so worthwhile to feel and not use pride to sink back below. Pride ironically keeps us in insecurity. How would you know what you really want if you didn't feel jealousy?