Menungso Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 Does anyone else struggle with quitting pornography and reducing masturbation? I've realized it's become excessive for me. In the past, I used these as coping mechanisms for childhood issues. Now that I've worked through that trauma, the habits persist. I've noticed my erections aren't as strong as they used to be. Additionally, I'm in a relationship now and want to focus on my partner's needs. I'm looking for support and advice, as this topic can be difficult to discuss openly without feeling shame or guilt. Despite my efforts, I haven't been able to stop yet. Any suggestions or experiences from others who've faced similar challenges would be appreciated. Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted July 14 Share Posted July 14 @Menungso Hi & welcome! Focus is prior to thoughts. Emotions are guidance. Focus is magic and creates reality. Whatever is focused upon, more of is experienced. Focus is on struggle, a past, coping, habit, need, shame, guilt, effort & stopping… and vitality isn’t as robust. Focus instead on ease & effortlessness, remaining present, acknowledging guidance, thriving, compassion, innocence, freedom, spontaneity and what’s wanted, and vitality is unfettered & robust. Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Menungso Posted July 14 Author Share Posted July 14 Your advice makes it sound easy Phil, many thanks for your support. It means so much to me. I take a screenshot of your post. I will try it now. Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Menungso Posted July 14 Author Share Posted July 14 @Phil I send you a PM. Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandy Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 Start a new habit. Do you lift weights, workout, run, swim, go to the gym, anything like that? Quote Mention Youtube Channel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reena Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 Burn your karma. Let it exhaust itself. I used to do that. But over time it can lose steam on its own. Then one day you might want your ability to masturbate back. Funny. Quote Mention So basically I'm an autistic INFJ BPD sigma Pisces female with anger and CPTSD issues. Wow wow. My plate looks full. I Couldn't have been weirder than that. Now I get why I'm so idiosyncratic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Someone here Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 Get serious. Get real .stop this habbit. You are destroying your manhood. Porn is ruined by satanic forces. It ruins everything beautiful about the most beautiful thing in existence which is sex and utterly distort your view about it . Just do it man. Grow some balls . Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 @Reena @Someone here How’s that approach working? Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reena Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 @Phil well I lost my ability to masturbate, how will that work other than create sexual frustration? Quote Mention So basically I'm an autistic INFJ BPD sigma Pisces female with anger and CPTSD issues. Wow wow. My plate looks full. I Couldn't have been weirder than that. Now I get why I'm so idiosyncratic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 @Reena It sounds like the approach you’re recommending did not actually work out for you, is that right? Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Someone here Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 10 minutes ago, Phil said: @Reena @Someone here How’s that approach working? Which approach? Me saying porn industry is ruined by satanic forces? That's literally the case . that's been the case since Hugh Hefner's sexual revolution in mid 60s (the founder of Playboy). And it does ruin how you view sex and what expectations to have ..sex in porn (the professional sites not the homemade trash) is so flashy and fantastic and has nothing to do with real sex . Sex is a sacred thing .I'm not saying one should only have a sexual release with a spouse as I am not religious or close minded ..but I do think that it must be done only with someone you deeply love and care about . As for masturbation its just stupid I have nothing more to describe about it . Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reena Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 3 minutes ago, Phil said: @Reena It sounds like the approach you’re recommending did not actually work out for you, is that right? Describe my approach. Quote Mention So basically I'm an autistic INFJ BPD sigma Pisces female with anger and CPTSD issues. Wow wow. My plate looks full. I Couldn't have been weirder than that. Now I get why I'm so idiosyncratic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 @Someone here Worked for you as in, there is no longer an experience of porn addiction / excessive masturbation? Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 1 minute ago, Reena said: Describe my approach. 2 hours ago, Reena said: Burn your karma. Let it exhaust itself. This framing / approach. 2 hours ago, Reena said: I used to do that. But over time it can lose steam on its own. Then one day you might want your ability to masturbate back. Funny. It does not sound like it worked for you and thus I am curious why you’re giving that advice / recommending that framing / approach. Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reena Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 1 minute ago, Phil said: This framing / approach. It does not sound like it worked for you and thus I am curious why you’re giving that advice / recommending that framing / approach. I don't think I recommended anything. I'm against sexual repression. Any negative thought about masturbation is deeply unhealthy. This is not realized in the beginning. But as time goes on, things can be difficult especially with sexual repression as well as excessive masturbating. Either you lose the ability to masturbate anymore due to hormonal changes or get too bored of it. But when you direly need it, you can't get it back.. It's not a switch off switch on thing. It depends on your body. So if you can masturbate, you gotta be grateful because the day you lose it is the day you will desperately want it back. That's what I meant. A pendulum. It's better in the middle. Swinging it to either extreme is always a problem. Quote Mention So basically I'm an autistic INFJ BPD sigma Pisces female with anger and CPTSD issues. Wow wow. My plate looks full. I Couldn't have been weirder than that. Now I get why I'm so idiosyncratic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Someone here Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 (edited) 10 minutes ago, Phil said: @Someone here Worked for you as in, there is no longer an experience of porn addiction / excessive masturbation? I watch porn and bust a nut whenever I want . Any antagonism? How do you assume I have" porn addiction" ? Did I say that ? Dont put words on my mouth which I don't say please. However..I'm 27 now ..so my testosterone levels kinda stabilised and I'm not that horny anymore . But when I was a teenager I swear I could get "it " up for a female cat. I fapped to porn of course and was hooked 😂..but that's something from the past . Porn and excessive masturbation have its phase in life ..which is when you are a high school kid . Not when you are a grown ass man. You might hugely disagree(probably due to cultural reasons) but whatever. Edited July 15 by Someone here Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 4 minutes ago, Reena said: I don't think I recommended anything But you did though…. 2 hours ago, Reena said: Burn your karma. Let it exhaust itself. Nothing wrong with it, I’m just curious why you would recommend that when it doesn’t actually work / didn’t work for you. Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Someone here Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 @Reena why can't you masturbate ? What exactly is the problem "down there "? Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reena Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 1 minute ago, Phil said: But you did though…. Nothing wrong with it, I’m just curious why you would recommend that when it doesn’t actually work / didn’t work for you. It can work for someone who doesn't wish to masturbate anymore. In my case it didn't work because I don't want to abandon masturbation forever. Quote Mention So basically I'm an autistic INFJ BPD sigma Pisces female with anger and CPTSD issues. Wow wow. My plate looks full. I Couldn't have been weirder than that. Now I get why I'm so idiosyncratic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reena Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 4 minutes ago, Someone here said: @Reena why can't you masturbate ? What exactly is the problem "down there "? Not something I would expect a man to ask a woman so directly on a public forum hahaha 😆😆 Quote Mention So basically I'm an autistic INFJ BPD sigma Pisces female with anger and CPTSD issues. Wow wow. My plate looks full. I Couldn't have been weirder than that. Now I get why I'm so idiosyncratic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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