Omar Osama Posted March 24 Share Posted March 24 should I get rid of my family if there is no respect for me or my choices? Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eternal Posted March 24 Share Posted March 24 1 hour ago, Omar Osama said: should I get rid of my family if there is no respect for me or my choices? @Omar Osama I'd say just do what you want to do. They are family, i'm sure they'd most likely come around no matter what you do anyway. It's your life, not theirs. Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandy Posted March 25 Share Posted March 25 No, you just need to respect you and your choices. Unless you are being severely abused in some way, I would never suggest cutting contact with family, but if you're feeling disrespected, I would always suggest getting your own place or working towards independence if that's not already the case. Quote Mention Youtube Channel Website Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted March 25 Share Posted March 25 22 hours ago, Omar Osama said: should I get rid of my family if there is no respect for me or my choices? How so? What happened? What choices? Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joseph Maynor Posted March 25 Share Posted March 25 (edited) This is a deep subject that few including me have understood. I'm gonna start a video series today going deep into Social Relations. This is something I never got from anyone, but could have used, from my perspective of course. I had some insights on this last night talking (spending time in person) to someone close to me. Someone who knows me going way way way back let's just say. I won't post the videos here but if you want them DM me. Edited March 26 by Joseph Maynor Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omar Osama Posted March 25 Author Share Posted March 25 (edited) 44 minutes ago, Phil said: How so? What happened? What choices? My choices about college forced me into it I didn't want that major. Also when I am meditating they beat me up for it with physical violence until I stopped doing it. This is life in third-world countries and stage-blue religious people think and breathe stage-blue religious ideas if you just criticize or do something that appears contradictory to their religion or beliefs like meditation they will fight you and threaten you to death lol. I am working on my independence I don't want any life with them anymore. But there is also a sense of regret that I shouldn't leave them. Edited March 25 by Omar Osama Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted March 25 Share Posted March 25 38 minutes ago, Omar Osama said: My choices about college forced me into it I didn't want that major. Are you saying your parents forced you into it by choosing your major for you? How far along in college are you as far as employment & moving out? 38 minutes ago, Omar Osama said: Also when I am meditating they beat me up for it with physical violence until I stopped doing it. Sorry to hear that. The ignorance is heart breaking. Are they only assaulting when it comes to meditation? What level of assault? Nudging you so you can’t meditate, beating you? Bruises, leaving marks? Are there laws against assault where you live? Depending on your age, child abuse laws? Is there somewhere you can go, someone you can stay with? What’s the size, age, strength ratio like between you & the parent or parents assaulting you? It sounds like they are coming from extreme fear & ignorance regarding meditation. Are they aware of how beneficial it is to you & your success as a student? Are they aware leading colleges recommend meditation & the benefits are scientifically proven, and that it has nothing to do with religion? https://www.harvard.edu/in-focus/mindfulness-meditation/ https://recreation.duke.edu/story/taking-your-yoga-practice-mat/ https://yalehealth.yale.edu/mindfulness-meditation-yale https://positivepsychology.com/benefits-of-meditation/ https://www.forbes.com/sites/jeenacho/2016/07/14/10-scientifically-proven-benefits-of-mindfulness-and-meditation/ https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/meditation/in-depth/meditation/art-20045858 Worse case scenario, can you meditate somewhere other than at home? Is there someone revered from your country who spoke of & practiced nonviolence? Someone your parents would respect? It might be connective, to help them relate and begin to understand. If so, you could probably find something online that person said about meditation, or mindfulness as well. 38 minutes ago, Omar Osama said: But there is also a sense of regret that I shouldn't leave them. Bodily safety is fundamental. If you can, if I were in your shoes, I’d leave. Also, meditation definitely doesn’t have to be a formal seated practice. You can return attention to feeling breathing in the stomach (which clears the mind) practically anywhere without anyone being able to notice you are. You don’t even have to close your eyes. Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omar Osama Posted March 25 Author Share Posted March 25 (edited) 20 minutes ago, Phil said: Bodily safety is fundamental. If you can, leave. This is not happening anymore it happened only twice. 20 minutes ago, Phil said: Are you saying your parents forced you into it by choosing your major for you? How far along in college are you as far as employment & moving out? Yeah they did, I was 18 years old my father told me this major or to get out so I wasn't aware that I can get a job and depend on myself I didn't have any experience working before so I got into that major. I am in my third year, I am not going to continue it I can move out. 20 minutes ago, Phil said: Are they only assaulting when it comes to meditation? What level of assault? Nudging you so you can’t meditate, beating you? Bruises, leaving marks? Are there laws against assault where you live? Depending on your age, child abuse laws? No there isn't they support it lol. Maybe there is I don't care I am old enough to get out. 20 minutes ago, Phil said: What’s the size, age, strength ratio like between you & the parent or parents assaulting you? Why, I am very skinny. 20 minutes ago, Phil said: It sounds like they are coming from extreme fear & ignorance regarding meditation. Are they aware of how beneficial it is to you & your success as a student? Are they aware leading colleges recommend meditation & the benefits are scientifically proven, and that it has nothing to do with religion? As I said they think it's worshipping idols and I am going to hell it's stage blue religion ideas they were raised in any other religion or practice is considered a huge problem they might even kill not just abandon you. They think they are doing the work of God or any other shit idea they think they are doing. 20 minutes ago, Phil said: Worse case scenario, can meditate somewhere other than at home? Is there someone revered from your country who spoke of & practiced nonviolence? Someone your parents would respect? Yes. Maybe I don't care. Other than making choices for you and submitting to their religious ideas they are supportive and loving to some degree but I can't be my true self it's like why was I born here lol. I can get out in 5 or 6 months Edited March 25 by Omar Osama Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted March 25 Share Posted March 25 @Omar Osama Is there some debating & arguing about religion happening lately? Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omar Osama Posted March 25 Author Share Posted March 25 1 minute ago, Phil said: @Omar Osama Is there some debating & arguing about religion happening lately? No I dont argue with them about anything anymore Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted March 26 Share Posted March 26 @Omar Osama Do you talk with them / do they talk with you? Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omar Osama Posted March 26 Author Share Posted March 26 21 minutes ago, Phil said: @Omar Osama Do you talk with them / do they talk with you? about religion? Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted March 26 Share Posted March 26 @Omar Osama Generally speaking, is there communication happening? And specifically about meditation and the health & well being aspects like in those links? Parents are typically all for their kids health, well being and success. Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omar Osama Posted March 26 Author Share Posted March 26 1 hour ago, Phil said: @Omar Osama Generally speaking, is there communication happening? And specifically about meditation and the health & well being aspects like in those links? Parents are typically all for their kids health, well being and success. No, there is almost no communication they can talk about religion from time to time and tell me to pray and ask me about college and how I did in exams. Success for them is finishing college and getting a job. Maybe they are not toxic I was just overreacting lol. I will move out soon. Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted March 26 Share Posted March 26 @Omar Osama Understandable. 🙏🏻 Try communicating as simply as is possible about the benefits of meditation and how it’s not related to religion. Allow patience for ignorance, as it’s absolutely innocent. You might even say ‘what I’m struggling with when it comes to college is x, y and z… and what meditation helps me with happens to be x, y and z. Just pick three relevant points from the links above about the benefits of meditation. Let them know it’s about health, well being & success. You probably wish them health, well being & success, and they wish this for you as well. Love is reliable in this way. On willingness & communication… if it’s helpful. Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omar Osama Posted March 26 Author Share Posted March 26 @Phil Thank you for the help 💚 Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted March 26 Share Posted March 26 2 minutes ago, Omar Osama said: @Phil Thank you for the help 💚 🙏🏻 Life’s short man. Love now. And not just them… self-love. Letting whatever discordant thoughts there might be go… and enjoying this moment right now as it is. Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omar Osama Posted March 26 Author Share Posted March 26 2 hours ago, Phil said: Life’s short man Is it? Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted March 26 Share Posted March 26 @Omar Osama Apparently. Quote Mention YouTube Website Sessions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joseph Maynor Posted March 31 Share Posted March 31 A video I made for you. It took me a while to make this, but here it is. Quote Mention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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