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Whimsical

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  1. I know all about Teal Swan, but the difference is that she shares of her story and trauma that she has overcome. She never said she wasn’t effected by it. She has also told her full story. We don’t know any details regarding Leo and his abuse. If anything he could report his abuser so they can’t harm anyone else.
  2. @Lester Retsel yeah I agree. If he had came out with the story and said he’s worked through it in order to forgive and accept it, it would be more understandable. But to outright say it had no affect on him and it caused him no trauma, is the odd part, and to me sounds like something he’s told himself as a way to cope. As another member mentioned it kind of Invalidates others who have gone through similar things, I can see how that will be massively triggering to people who are trying to overcome traumas like that. maybe because he was older, did he say 14? that he didn’t feel traumatised by it, who knows. But if that was the case then why tell everyone he was groomed and molested? Why not say it was a profound experience he had with an older person. I don’t know, just some thoughts.
  3. Perhaps more people should confront it. I just read the comments and can’t believe how many people are defending it tbh. I’m sorry he went through that, but he himself doesn’t seem to care anyway? He’s unaffected? I dunno, seems off.
  4. Embracing discomfort? Feeling unstable and unsettled. That limbo feeling has been hanging around me for a long time now. transitioning over from the end of one chapter and starting a new chapter. longing for that content feeling. Or am I just chasing it? when was the last time I truly felt content? i would probably say it was during that first Covid lockdown when I was isolating alone. It was April 2020, the weather was great. Sunshine every day. I was lucky enough to be furloughed at that time. I could enjoy, for probably the first time in my (working) life, to be totally off work for 6 weeks without having to worry about money. I really switched off. I was spending the days painting, doing yoga, cooking, waking up when I wanted. Just hanging around the flat. Life felt good. I really felt content and peaceful. Everything changed after that. After that I couldn’t go back to the way things were. I feel nostalgia for that time.
  5. I’ve been feeling down, uncertain, anxious, confused, out of touch, lethargic. Don’t know how to explain it but I feel out of sorts, like life is happening and I’m just an observer. I’m not really controlling anything. Things just seem to happen and I am the viewer. Sometimes I just don’t know who this person even is. Been feeling like this for a while now. I remember reading a silly news article once about a man who complained he had woken up one day and he was 45. He said he didn’t know how he got there, since the time had passed him so fast, he simply didn’t understand how he had reached that age. Was like a dream… well I’m kinda feeling like him. wake up.
  6. I don’t really journal and feeling like I need to start. I used to write in diaries as a kid/teen. I remember tearing the pages out and destroying them out of fear that somebody would read them. I’ve always been such a private person. Secretiveness is something I’ve really had to work on. I used to hide so much and not want anyone to know stuff. I kept everything to myself and didn’t open up about anything. I was always afraid. I know why I ended up that way. Environment. Just wonder how different of a person I could have been if I wasn’t brought up to be so secretive and ashamed of everything. I try to be honest and I try not to hide now. I lived a secret life growing up. Living in my shadow but putting on a facade of being good.
  7. I’ve been very self conscious about how I look my whole life. If anything it’s getting worse as I get older, I think I may have body dysmorphia. I hate to have my photo taken and sometimes I don’t want to go in social situations because I feel unattractive. I know it’s a self absorbed way to think but I can’t help it. I don’t really know why exactly I feel and think this way as I was never, for example, bullied because of my appearance growing up, or told I was ugly etc. but I notice many things wrong about my looks and judge myself heavily for it. I compare myself to others and I don’t feel like I look normal. Just don’t know how to think differently.
  8. I’m not married but I live with my boyfriend. It gets annoying having to decide who pays what and trying to make things equal. Sometimes I think it would be easier if we had an extra account for sharing money. Like a joint account for food and bills then also my own account for my own savings and buying what I want etc. I think it’s important to always have your own savings though for the future as you never know what might happen.
  9. @Space4This of course. the point was that he was here complaining about the other forum. Then he was on the other forum commenting about us, complaining about this forum. was just amusing to see the too faced-ness in action. Maybe was a deliberate move to stir things up.
  10. I just crept on over to view said thread and saw Gesundheit @Gesslagging this forum to members on the other forum. Lol what’s that about? You were also complaining here no? Or was that just you testing the waters hehe 😌
  11. When I log in the forum is all messed up. I’m logged in via my phone. When I log out i can view the forum normally… (see screenshots)
  12. Nostalgic Spring Vibes 🌸
  13. I was never so much affected by his teachings in his videos, I enjoyed listening to his stuff pre-covid. I liked the ones about society, spiral dynamics, self love, chapters and phases and many others. So this is not about his teachings per say. My grievances lie with how he conducts himself online. when I joined the forum and saw how he speaks on there it changed my opinion of him, and then listening to him wasn’t as nice anymore because it felt too fake, but then at the same time I feel like the content changed and it wasn’t the same. Of course I was triggered reading misogynistic comments about women, In a forum dominated by men. It did make me look within myself but If anything that is what gave me more victim mentality because it made me more insecure.
  14. I do, and I left the forum a while back. But since this is what the thread is about we are all having an open discussion about it. It’s not about victim mentality, it’s about saying what we want to say, getting things off chest so to speak. It’s good to talk about it rather than just brushing everything under the rug. Clearly other people have felt the same and noticed the same things, so why shouldn’t we be able to talk about it with eachother in a safe space? all of us have been affected in one way or another by actualized. Not saying everything was bad, I learned a lot. Eventually the thread will fizzle and there will be nothing left to say 🙂
  15. Leader or not, he’s an influencer, whichever way you want to put it. He has a platform and is guiding and influencing people. I think to a certain degree he tries to be responsible in certain areas. But when it comes to women and relationships it all goes out the window. He talks about open mindedness but outright tells his followers ‘not to listen to women’ and refuses to engage in conversations with female members in regards to dating.
  16. Easier said than done. When most of the people following and looking for advice are generally people without direction, good role models, or just people who feel they aren’t enough. These are also the types of people who will be easily influenced by someone who shows themselves as an authority. . … If you are going to put yourself in a position of authority and guidance to others, and show off your shadow side, then you are going to attract people who resonate with your shadow. No wonder that dating forum attracts incelology and redpillers , because that’s the vibe Leo puts out. He talks in the same way then when confronted on it, he gaslights his way out of it, or he will tell others off for speaking the same way he did. I remember once a member made a post with all of the misogynistic quotes Leo has said before on the forum. His response was ‘context’ as if that made all those things he said ok, because of the context it was said at the time.
  17. @Blessed2 @Serenity As a previous female member of the forum, I totally agree with everything said. I wouldn't like to post because of the sarky comments or just the feeling of not being taken seriously. Reading that dating section and everything said about the masculine to feminine dynamics, had me questioning my own femininity and feeling that I'm not feminine enough, and that only the hottest 10/10 girls are the most feminine. Everyone else out of that category wasn't feminine enough. Girls shouldn't be too picky because once they hit 30 theyre no good and they won't find a "high value man"! If you're a woman and don't want to be like a submissive little girl and don't want to be constantly dominated, or you aren't always trying to please a man sexually it means you aren't truly feminine! And if that is the case then just "move on from that girl, and find a better girl" Hearing all of these types of things mess with your sanity. If you don't prioritise sex and be 'detatched' it means you are a weak man. I began judging my boyfriend and worrying he wasn't masculine enough. and even though I enjoy organising things in the relationship and making decisions, I began trying to suppress those instincts and expecting that my boyfriend should be the only one exhibiting those traits and i should be taking a back seat and letting him lead, or it means i'm not being feminine enough, and he isn't be masculine enough. Anyway, as soon as i stopped going on the forum I stopped caring about all that. it really made me more neutrotic.
  18. Whimsical

    Hello!

    Hi I’m new to the forum. 🙂 I was a member at the other forum but I quit last year because I felt it became quite toxic. Im happy to have found another place!
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